Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 7 years, we have a child. He never wants to spend time with us, all he wants to do is go to the bar. He works 5 days a week. He doesn't like doing anything with us. And when I go somewhere with my daughter he accuses me of cheating on him, While I'll have our daughter. It's driving me crazy. What should I do, I've already tried talking to him, but he doesn't listen...HELP!
2006-09-08 08:28:36 · 24 answers · asked by emmylousmygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
before everyone starts telling you to leave... you've been together 7 yrs.... have a child together........ i'm sure you love him....... is he a good, providing father, is he, for the most part, good to you? He might be an alcoholic.... maybe consider getting him help.. or maybe he feels he's missing his single life and that's his way to connect w/ his friends... find out WHY he wants to go to the bar.... and maybe one night, get a baby sitter and plan to go to the bar with him..... ask him what his priorities are right now and if you and your daughter aren't on the top 3ish I'd say send him a message.... you're not putting up with it any more... one last shot.. make sure he knows your serious.... and if he can't change... THEN move on....
2006-09-08 08:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think being a single mom is easy, but either you leave him or not, it seems to me that you will still be a single mother.
You sound very unhappy and you have every right to be in this situation. Think about your child. Does she deserve to live in such an environment?
He takes you two for granted. Go stay with your friends or family (you and your daughter). Maybe he will realize what he is missing though the odds of that happening are quite small.
Do everything you must do so that you and your daughter can live a normal life.
Good luck and a clear head!
2006-09-08 08:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by Dr_D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it probably would've been a good idea to get married before having the child but since you didn't and this guy seems to have equal judgment qualities as you then I suspect its a great trailer park scenario.
If you have two brain cells and this guy really is the peice of work you're painting him out to be then leave, but I doubt you will. Just cheat on him with the mailman.
2006-09-08 08:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by ExceltoExcel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you willing to live the rest of your life with a guy like this? Don't you think that you and your daughter deserve much better than this.
Get out and get out now, find your self-esteem again and get a new life, friends, interests, and you'll meet someone who deserves you.
Talking to someone like your boyfriend doesn't work - you should know that after 7 years! He's the epitome of selfish and won't change because he doesn't have to.
2006-09-08 08:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him. It seems like he's already left yall. He's probably only still there because it is easier to stay than to start all over. Life is to short to be miserable. Think about your child's future. And don't forget the one who is accusing is usually the guilty one. You already know what to do. You don't need a man to support yall. You can do it! Good Luck!!
2006-09-08 08:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by sexygal8321 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should you leave or stay what..in the house? Not to be harsh, but he BEEN left the relationship, and it's not a "home" that you two share to me. You know you're not happy, you know you're not in the best situation for you or your daughter. If you are looking for someone to state the obvious: accept the situation for what it is and know it's time to move on. If you need motivation...ENOUGH CRYING BY MJB...that's you right there.
2006-09-08 08:37:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you go somewhere, he accuses you of cheating him, that means, he is jealous, he loves you.
If you love him, try not to make him angry, let him know in advance that you will go out at such xyz place to do that & that, ...etc.
NB.: Why didn't you both get married? 7 years is a long time.
2006-09-08 08:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by Totti Frotti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave... what right does he have even if you were seeing someone else... he's only your BF... not your husband... He has no hold over you... or right to you emotionally or otherwise... Look at the whole experience as a bad seven year lesson... and don't make that mistake again...
2006-09-08 08:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating on you. You need to leave. Staying because of the child is not a good excuss .
2006-09-08 08:34:36 · answer #9 · answered by womanofthefire80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not interested in you or the kid. Don't let him fool you he goes to the bar to scope out the chicks. Get out while you can and make him pay child support for that kid.
2006-09-08 09:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋