I have a gay friend who I have been in love with for so long..I use to work for him in another town..He quit that job and asked me to come and work for him in another town, and I did it!!! I quit my job, moved, my kids had to switch schools too!!! Call me crazy ,,I already know I am....but what do you do when you cant help who you have feelings for and who you love...What do I do??? Are people always gay or do they ever ever ever possibly change??
2006-09-08 08:14:53 · 16 answers · asked by mary_marlene65 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are barking up the wrong tree. You don't have what he needs. You could be partners, friends, girlfriends even but he doesn't care for what you can offer him sexual relation wise.
Sex is about more than just screwin. It is about the whole dominance and submissive, control and surrender, need and fullfillment thing.
If he is gay then it is like trying to hit on a straight woman. You have a HARD road to hoe.
2006-09-08 08:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by campojoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gay people are born that way and they do not change, since it is not a choice.
There are some gay people who decide to no longer act on their natural orientation, but that doesn't make them any less gay. Imagine the trauma they must go through every day! People who claim to be "ex-gay" would fall under this category.
I'd say your best hope is that your intended is not 100% gay, that perhaps he has been somewhere in the middle of the spectrum all along. If this is the case, you may have a chance, since you are not asking him to change anything, but act on a particular part of his sexual orientation. But don't expect the other part to go away as well - that's just not realistic.
Good luck!
2006-09-08 08:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
before I go.most always a gay person is just that. some do try to change and I can't say that it's never been done,but i would say that you have set yourself up to be at the mercy of someone Else's lifestyle.you and your kids.If you can't help who you love,don't you love the kids more than him??satisfying a need that you have that you know is unhealthy is fine if it;s just you.We know that your kids are involved and that is a whole different story.Once you cause harm to the child by your decisions you can not make up for their pain and you don't know how they will be effected.I'd say you are being very foolish and will regret this decision.how is it working out??are all of you happy???I don't see Good ending here.
2006-09-09 05:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are born with this he probably could pretend to go strait,
But he would not be happy. The best you can hope for is A relay good friend.
I am not trying to be mean but I have servile relatives that are gay . And all of them tried To live the strait life and they were very unhappy.Love your friend and be thank full fore what he can give you.
Sounds like he thinks very highly of you.You must be a good person.
2006-09-08 11:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by raven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have considered some quite beautiful gay men who're no longer white and some gay white men who are not beautiful in any respect; that's quite in basic terms boils right down to what that human being is searching for. about the entire gay male international, i'd listen some women folk been annoyed about over exaggerated men performing out lady like traits; that's like a mockery. in my view, the entire gay component would not complication me, yet i imagine guy purses/makeup/ it truly is slightly too a lot. gay adult men are nevertheless adult men who choose men over women. The position substitute would not look nesscary in basic terms dramatic.
2016-11-06 22:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could fall for a straight guy even though you love your gay boss/friend. I can't figure out why you want to try and change someone it's not possible.People change themselves only if they want to but when it comes to sexual preference I don't see that ever happening.
2006-09-08 08:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by Linda R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are always gay. Even if the "convert" they will allways have gay tendencies, or inklings, to go go "back". like the millions of 'undercover' so called straight married men who are infecting there unsuspecting wives all across the US as we speak.
2006-09-08 08:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by mommy_2_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its impossible thats like trying to get a straight man to turn gay maybe next life time
2006-09-08 08:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you fall in love with a person, not a penis, so its possible for someone to change orientation. But, you didn't just meet this guy. If you had a shot, you would know it.
2006-09-08 08:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry honey, live with it. every girl false in love with her gay friend thats it, but you have to accept his gay, if he wants to change let him change. don't push and don't tell him beacuse things will go wrong. it's a fact everygirl but move on.
2006-09-08 08:18:35 · answer #10 · answered by kuki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋