My Realtionship Is Dead?

Question

My Man And I Have A One And A Half Year Old Daughter, In The Beginning He didn't Want To HearThe baby Thing he Said That He Wasn't Ready For A Baby. Well Any Way Here We Are A Year And A HAlf Later And He Loves My Daughter. The Problem Is We Don't HAve Sex Anymore, It's Been Three Months He Says That he Is Scared Because he Doesn't Want Me To end Up Gettimg Pregnant Again, But We Are Both using Protection So That Shouldn't Be A Problem At All. I Just Don't Know What To Do becauseI Want To be Intimate And Everytime That I Try Something with Him He Kind Of Just Rolls Over And Goes To Sleep Either That Excuse Or he Is Tired, And He Says Tomorrow Would be A Better Day Then Tomorrow Comes And The Same Old Thing Over And Over. I Mean If he Doesn't Trust Me That I Am Being Carefull Then why Is He Even With Me ? Is It Far To Have A Nonsexual Realtionship When One Of You Wants To Have Sex. Help Me Out Here I Have Basically Tried Everything Thank You Very Much For Your Time.

Answer 1

I am basically in the same kind of relationship. I want to have sex with my husband or just some type of intimate contact with him at night but my husband never wants to have sex or any type of involvement anymore. He is either to tired, mad, or upset. It is to the point that we don't even sleep in the same room anymore. Is it fair to you no it is not. So you really need to decide what you want to do. I have been putting up with it for 3 years and I'm sure you don't want to wait that long. Sit down and tell him how you feel. If he still refuses to not have sex with you than you have a decision to make if you want to be in a relationship anymore. I wish you good luck. If he refuses to get it up for you there are numerous other men that would love to be with you!

Answer 2

You know, sometimes sex just isn't right for a little while. There are many reasons. When I didn't want to have sex, it was because we had been fighting for a long time over the same issues, with no change, and I just didn't think it made any sense to keep pretending I felt romantic chemistry. Other reasons are stagnancy (the same old missionary style), contentment (if he doesn't seem otherwise weird, he may feel just right being with you), frustration with something else (family, work, money; just keep an eye out) or cheating. Many men who cheat don't want sex from their wives any more.

Answer 3

Maybe try to have a romantic little getaway(even at home). See if u could get a babysitter for the night. Cook him up his fav dish, turn on a lil music. Do all this when you know he is about to be home. You need to have already taken a good bath with the "good ****". Wear something sexy for him and even if u don't dance, put on a lil show for him. Some pleasure for his eye. You seduce YOUR MAN and get your groove back. If this doesn't arouse his interests then he may be having sex with soeone else. Don't go digging for information either!!!!!!!Just stay focused and read between the lines. Even be kind "cute" about the scenario. Get a couple packs of condoms, open them up and place them in his view. maybe that will decrease his worry about you getting pregnant.

Answer 4

I have also went threw this but I am married to mine! It is not a sexual relationship and neither one of us has cheated. It just isn't interesting or fun anymore to me. I am not sure about his excuses. I think that sometimes instead of leaving and being alone it is easier to stay with your child and man (women) and just try to make the best of things!! It is extremely hard sometimes. I miss the sex and the intimate times but sometimes we just end up doing things for which we are unsure of the answers.
sorry I couldn't be more help

Answer 5

Sounds to me like he's lost interest. Maybe he doesn't look at you the same way anymore. Or maybe he holds a resentment against you for getting pregnant (even though it takes two to get pregnant). Or maybe your body isnt back to what it was before and he doesnt find you sexually arousing anymore. Im not trying to worry you, these are all just possibilities. If you know its not any of these above, maybe he doesnt want it because hes getting it somewhere else if you know what I mean. Maybe try to spice things up a little.

Answer 6

Well girl, it sounds like there is more going on, deep rooted resentment or something. Sounds like you guys really need to have a good heart to heart talk to find out what is really going on.
As in any intimate relationship, sex is involved especially as you already have a child !! It is a normal part of the relationship. Other stuff is going on here. Good luck tonight ;)

Answer 7

You could try to be more seductive with him. What worked in the beginning? Maybe you could try oral. Maybe a little role play, or foods. That can be fun. As far as a non-sexual relationship, I dated a virgin for a year and we were fine. We didn't have sex but we did other things thta kept both of us happy until we were both ready for sex. This just varies from relationship to relationship.

Answer 8

I've heard of this happening before , why I do not know, but some men after having a child with their mate, for some (God only knows )reason suddenly are not attracted to them anymore. Most of us are lucky enough to have just the opposite, it brings us together. This probably won't help you much , just wanted to let you know this does happen to others .I'd suggest counseling , not sure how your mate would feel about that either. Just out of curiosity , was he in delivery room with you? GL

Answer 9

You need councelling that is all you can do. When it comes to sex most guys at that moment do not think of it as producing a baby. If he does not want to have anymore kids from now on why doesn't he go get a vasectomy? My husband does not want to have anymore kids and sometimes I cannot keep up with him.

Answer 10

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