I am in to all kind of different stuff... Toys, threesomes, porn, bondage, body painting and so on... But my husband dose the same thing every night... It's good don't get me wrong but it's getting old! I had one of those in home sex toy parties and he said it was immoral that women shouldn't talk about that stuff and toys and masterbation are just wrong... How do I get him to try this stuff?? Or what else should I try?
2006-09-08 07:57:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You could ask him?
Seriously, it sounds like the two of you need to have an honest, open, non-judgmental discussion about this. He needs to know why you have an interest in these activities. (It doesn't even have to be rational, just honest.) Also, you need to know why he might not be interested. He might simply be unfamiliar with the whole concept. He might actively hate it for some reason. Possibly he might simply be uncomfortable with the whole thing.
Whatever the reason, knowledge is power, and with that comes steps closer to a solution. Perhaps he might be willing to indulge you in some of the milder stuff (such as light bondage and/or blindfolds) just to please you. Perhaps he might have a tiger buried underneath that's looking to get loose! Perhaps he'll never consent to it. But you'll only find out by communicating.
2006-09-08 10:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Ѕємι~Мαđ ŠçїєŋŧιѕТ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start out with a lap dance. get him real hard. tease him for about 5-10 min. then drink some wine or what ever he prefers remember don't give in yet...tye him up to the bed & get on top of him. start playing with yourself. then reach down & gentaly play with his boys for a min. start kissing his body. then slip in a few things like your body paint or what ever you might want. change some of your ways just a little not to much. let him have an experiance that he will never for get. on the 3somes let him pick out the other partener.. he is a little old school soounds to me but thats ok cause old school is very nice. some guys wont addmitt that they like there women to play but they do. try something new.
2006-09-08 15:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by M A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW... he said that??? !!! ??? I've never personally met a guy who wouldnt LOVE a girl who is outgoing with sex like you are (and me). but... hmmmm... Ok. Does he know you are outgoing like this, and that you want to try new things. Tell him how fun it is, and that you are willing to try. Ease him into it with small things like toys & porn first. See what he says, and move on from there. I cant believe there is a guy out there in the world who wouldnt enjoy a good threesome or porno. WOW... people still amaze me sometimes. Good luck!
2006-09-08 15:04:42 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband must have been brought up in a religious environment which taught that any variation on the sex act was wrong. I wish you luck in changing his mind. An excellent book you might look at is The Joy of Sex.
2006-09-08 15:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot be lonely and unhappy if your relationship is genuine. Ask yourself how genuine you are with your partner, how willing you are to feel, to be open and vulnerable, to reveal yourself and all that really matters to you.
Have the courage to open a dialogue with your husband to discuss the issues which bother you, but present yourself as a thinking and rational woman, not as a desperately depressed wife. Tell him what you are willing to do in order to keep the marriage, and what you are not willing to take anymore. And of course, listen to what your husband has to say.
2006-09-09 03:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When did he find this religion? Was he always like this or is he turning into a curmudgeon. Either way you need to point out there error of his ways. Use one of those toys in front of him in the living room. If that does not sway him he's a lost cause.
2006-09-08 15:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start simple, avoid involving other people if he doesn't want it. IT WILL phuck up a marriage if both parties don't agree.
Do a strip tease for him, lap dance something simple. If he is a prude, you married the wrong man. You sound highly sexualized and married a nerd that is content with straight burgers and fries when he could have prime rib.
I wish you could transmit some of your libido my wife's way!!
2006-09-08 15:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
let me ask you does he satisfy you sexually?if yes why do you have all those toys and the parties oh no!give him a break ,you make him feel like he doesnt do anything to you and the truth its immoral and especially when you claim you are married think about it you are torturing him mentally,believe him he is the best thing you have he is not controlled with batteries and he understand you when you moan the toy cant give you that
2006-09-08 15:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by salma 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1 that stuff should be kept behind close doors and the thing with being in to threesomes you could be loosing your lover to someone else, and maybe it thinks that is guy's talk your talking about and it shouldnt be coming out of a ladies mouth, but the thing is maybe he would perfer that you only talk to him about it not the rest of the world.
2006-09-08 15:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by barbara g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man! What is his problem? I wish that my wife (if I had one) was more like you. One Idea that pops into mind is to just stop giving him sex. Be like "honey, if you can't do better, you don't get any of this action!" He probably feels threatened by your sexual appetite. So, give him one. It's worth a try.
2006-09-08 15:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋