.There would be big problems if i did.
2006-09-08 07:55:46 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
he has smoke in frount of me and kids for 20 years
2006-09-08 07:56:39 · update #1
as a smoker i can understand why he might be upset at you if you asked that...
on the other hand, i have lived in my house for 11 years and have only smoked about 5 ciggies in doors...
out of RESPECT for my wife, and now 2 children, i smoke outside. (MY DECISION)
if its raining i stand in the shed.
i have an area for the butts, which i clear regularly and as far as i know i do not upset anyone with this habit.
mind you my wife still moans about my 'cologne' when i go to bed.
explain the situation to him and ask for a bit of compromise.
he is only human after all, he might even respect you for asking.
good luck.
2006-09-08 11:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has done this for 20 years, and you are just now complaining about it? How bad is your chest? Does he know how you feel? You may want to talk to him about it, instead of posting your question on the internet. What would be the big problems if you asked him to smoke outside? You have more problems than his smoking in the house.
2006-09-08 08:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by Kris 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, insist. Say that there will be bigger problems than him throwing a wobbly about you doing because it is now illegal to smoke in public places where other people can inhale secondary smoke.
Also, his kids may sue him in the future for any breathing complications they may develop, or even for taking up smoking, too!
If you aren't too confident, at least confine it to the kitchen with a door/window open and the kitchen door firmly shut. (This is your best bet, then when he's gotten used to that, your next move would be to get him to smoke outside.... ;-))
If he loves you and the kids, he will do it for you. If he doesn't he loves himself more.
2006-09-08 08:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by 675 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES!!!! I am a smoker and my wife isn't (she's just nuts). I never smoke in the house since she started to cough and complain of a bad chest.
These problems can be overcome, as they did between us, by talking - if he loves you, he will accept the idea of smoking in a given place away from you (even if it means hanging out of a small window last thing at night!!).
Good luck.
2006-09-08 14:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a smoker just 4 months ago. My kids asked that for their birthday can i go outside to smoke I felt bad and did then i became a nonsmoker because i didn't like going outside every time i wanted to smoke. it came the point where i was smoking a Lot less then i quit.
2006-09-08 08:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by rocker 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes you should tell him to smoke outside. you and your kids are SECOND HAND SMOKERS who can develop lung cancer. YOU and your children should get a complete physical. to prevent an argument with your hubby, give him pamphlets from the doctor's office, tell him to read about second hand smoke on the Internet. he should be checked out too. ask your husband if he loves you and the family, then why is trying to kill you guys? or ask him if he wants to see you live for 100 years, then why is he harming you with nicotine smoke? tell him that he can develop caner or heart disease. there are treatments foar smokers such as getting hypnotherapy, chewing gum that is for smokers, using the patch, cutting back on smoking. send him to a doctor. If there are going to be problems, tell him in front of a cop or move out and let him think about your decisions. stay with family, a motel, or friends. If you dont have problems with him, then tell him to smoke outside. tell him that you have asthma which causes breathing problems. it feel like your heart wants to stop beating. good luck and don't develop cancer or die because someone does not respect you or your health. this can be avoided unless it is not too late. god bless
2006-09-08 08:06:49 · answer #6 · answered by averilyn06 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I gave up smoking 2 years ago, my wife still smokes. I put an extractor fan in the kitchen + a portable tv, so every so often she goes there and has a cigarette. She does this now especially since I decorated and got rid of the brown tinted wallpaper and ceilings.
2006-09-08 08:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My kids have asthma so no one smokes in my house. This may be a difficult rule to implement. If he truly cares for you he would not smoke near you. Hopefully he's a reasonable person that you can convince to stop poisoning you. If not, is he worth your health?
2006-09-08 08:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by lilac3377 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer yourself! Don`t be stupid! passive smoking causes cancer! Why did you let him smoke around your kids at all! I would kick him outside the door! My childrens lives would be more important than what he wants! There will be bigger problems when you and your kids end up in hospital for chemotherapie!
2006-09-08 09:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by illumi_1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I do think that you should talk to him and try to get him to smoke outside. Mention that you have been having health problems - maybe have your doctor write him an informative letter?
If he has a major problem being forced to smoke outside - maybe compromise - limit him to one room of the house only.
2006-09-08 08:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by Moxie1313 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋