My wife and I are planning to have our first baby. It was a decision we made TOGETHER.
The women at my work were talking. This one lady said she got pregnant on purpose behind her husband's back.
They got married and the husband wanted to wait, and the wife felt she was getting too old (33) and decide to have one anyways.
She said she told him she was on birth control and planned it so she conceived using an ovulation kit.
She said she was pregnant after being married for 3 months and said, "Oh well, he got over it!"
What is wrong with women like this??!!!
Just because you are married doesn't mean you can plan a pregnancy without talking to your husband first!
Yeah your husband will love your child, but don't you think he will love the child more if he helped planned the baby?
Thank God I have a honest wife!
What do you think about women like this?
2006-09-08 07:47:08 · 25 answers · asked by HappyHippo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is a horrible thing to do because it means the wife thinks more about herself than the child. What kind of mother is someone that selfish going to make?
2006-09-08 07:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion for a woman to do that to a man is really wrong just because a woman is ready to have a baby doesn't mean the man is ready to have a baby and just cause a woman is married don't give her a right to get pregnant behind her husband's back before having a baby you want to be financial ready and be ready for the responsibilities maybe her husband isn't ready for any of that yet it's good to be prepared first I have never done that to my husband it's great when both are ready
2006-09-08 09:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's really manipulative and amazingly selfish--not the best qualities in a wife or a mother. Maybe that's why her husband was so reluctant.
On the other hand, I don't understand why people get married if they really don't want kids. To me, marriage is all about raising children. You don't need it if you are just two adults who only want a companion and an investment partner. I have seen a lot of divorces occur because of disagreements over having kids, not having kids, and lying about how you really felt on the subject. I think it's something you'd better be brutally honest about, cos it's a deal breaker, before and after the wedding.
2006-09-08 08:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by homebuyer 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortuantly the women hold the cards in that hand of life. The only choice a man has is to wear a rubber, but that might make his just a little suspicious. I don't know man, I've got a good wife and we have had two planned kids, so I guess you an I are the lucky ones.
2006-09-08 07:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by Matthew F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Such women are dishonest to say the least. You're right that the husband should have some say in whether they're ready for children. What pushes many women to do this, like in the above example, is that the big "35" is coming and they're afraid they won't be able to have children much longer after that.
2006-09-08 07:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, this woman has no sense of right and wrong. Marriage is a life long partnership, and decisions have to be discussed before action takes place.I personally would have little faith left in this woman, if this had happened to me.Her integrity is shot.
2006-09-08 07:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced because my X got pregnant with our second when I thought we were not ready. She felt it was her decision and not ours. She went so far as to use fertility drugs without my knowledge. I love my daughter very much, but have been happily divorced for 8 years now. I know she regrets it. Oh well.
2006-09-08 07:52:59 · answer #7 · answered by c.arsenault 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what comes around goes around. She should of talked to her husband first before getting off the pill. He is only going to resent the fact that she did it on purpose. He is going to feel trapped. I would never do that to my husband I would want him to want that child as bad as I did.
2006-09-08 07:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If men had control of their seed like a "male birth control pill" then it wouldn't be a problem. If the shoe was on the other foot if he got himself clipped what would she do? It was his choice not hers right? Just something to think about.
2006-09-08 09:34:48 · answer #9 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel always very bad when I hear about this kind of women.
You are right it should be a mutual decision to take such a responsibility.
2006-09-08 08:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by Sadaf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋