What should I do? I love my wife dearly, but, I'm still having these strong feeling for an old girlfriend. I'm really torn. I don't want to hurt anyone.
2006-09-08 07:21:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what u have to do is confront those feelings to sort out what u are going to do next; because harbouring strong feelings for someone else could lead you to do something very hurtful to your wife! No matter how much you think u are going hurt your wife keeping this kind of information from her will make it worse in the end cause whether you know it or not all your actions change when your with-holding information from a spouse. 3 C's confront, consider and change!
2006-09-08 07:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by reese27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am just wondering whether or not you plan on acting on these feelings you still have for the ex-girlfriend. I don't really think it is that awful to still have feelings for someone who was once part of your life........but on the other hand, you are a married man now and I don't think your wife would appreciate those feelings, same as you wouldn't if it were one of her old boyfriends. As long as you keep your feelings under wrap and don't act on anything, then it should be ok..........just remember, that old girlfriend is an ex for some reason........if not, she would be the wife now........think about it..........good luck
2006-09-08 07:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by dixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think hard about the old girlfriend. Are your "feelings" based on reality? Or on a dream or some distortion of how things really were? Time and distance can affect how we remember a relationship and we have a tendency to romanticize things. After all, if it was all that great, why is she an "ex?" Once you have thought it through, let it go and get on with your life whom you love dearly. THAT is reality.
2006-09-08 07:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by jurydoc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you still communicate with this friend and do you still see her? If so, you need to STOP before you get yourself in trouble!! You're feeding into lust especially if you're still socializing with her. Sounds to me like you need to eliminate the problem. I don't think your feelings would be this strong if you still were not seeing her. Are you really going to risk your marriage just because you can't seem to stay away from an old friend? I'm sorry, but I just think you're making a big mistake.
2006-09-08 07:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone once told me that the true source of happiness is not in having your heart's desire but in desiring what you have....look around you and see the life you and your wife have built together.......is it worth compromising because you can't let go of a moment in time?
The grass is not always greener in the other pasture, it just looks like that from a distance.....
2006-09-08 07:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by boston857 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and listen to yourself. Discipline yourself!!
Everyone has someone in their life that they reflect back on & even wonder what if,...but never allow your mind to play out scenarios. Don't give in to entertaining those thoughts.
You know the old saying,..
"If you can't be with the one you love, then love the one your with"
2006-09-08 07:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by paintressa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats terrible of you, and not fair to your wife.
2006-09-08 07:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw that's is just too bad. just too bad :-)
2006-09-08 22:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋