What can I do if I don't like who my wife is anymore?

Question

We haven't really been close in years and disagree on about everything. I am tired of the arguing and uncomfortable silence. Is it possible for us to fix our relationship?

Answer 1

yes it is possible, but you both have to really want to fix it.... start with sitting down calmly and talking honestly about how you feel, ask her how she feels, and if she is willing to work on the problems.... then discuss ways you can improve the relationship, if you cannot seem to agree and work on it together, do not hesitate to go to couples counseling it can work wonders!!!!!!! don't give up yet!!!!!!! best wishes!!!!!!

Answer 2

Of course you can fix your relationship, that is a good sign you want to know how, have you thought about the two of you going to counseling, ask her to lets have a talk, and try and express yourself, and say I want us to respect each others feelings, no more arguing, lets discuss the issue. Try romancing her all over again, small things, do the dishes, tell her not to cook, ask her if she will like to go out to eat, or what does she want you to bring home? Tell her you care about her, and you miss her!! Go to the movies, or the water front. Communication is the key to a good marriage.

Answer 3

Yes, it is possible! Sounds like you both need to communicate openly and honestly. No yelling allowed - take turns sharing what you are feeling, but no interrupting each other. You may be surprised to find out what she is feeling. Really look at why you are disagreeing - is it just to disagree since that's become the norm? Find things you do agree on and focus on that.

Answer 4

Try counseling. If you truly love her make it work. Sleep in seperate rooms for a while. If you feel alone, sad and want to be next to her. You need to try working things out. Write down what needs to change. Everday read her side and she reads yours. Work everyday tword making whatever is on that list acceptable. If that doesn't work. Split as friends. Learn to forgive each other for short comings. DO not judge. Give a lot of LOVE. PRAY. try church. Bring her flowers. Cook dinner. Clean the house. Something is better than Nothing!!! Take care and my God bless your marriage.

Answer 5

Have you tried counseling?
If you have been this uncomfortable for years, have you tried discussing some of the issues with her?
Marriage counseling sounds like it would be worth a try if you want to save the marriage. It doesn't sound like you're looking for an easy out since you've remained together all this time.
Good luck

Answer 6

It took a nervous breakdown and a 3 month separation from my wife to finally wake us both up to realization that we still loved each other. We would have been married 50 years last month but she passed away last year and I still miss her dearly. You never know how much you miss a person until they are gone, so use your own judgement in making the decision your asking here.

Answer 7

Before you totally give up on your marriage, try marriage counseling, it can really help. Anything is possible, you just have to take action and believe that you two can make it.

Answer 8

It is possible but you both must be willing to try it. Really try hard to understand your feelings. Sometimes all you need to do is to talk about it and start doing fun things together again.

Answer 9

You could try marriage counseling if you are really and truly serious about saving your marriage. If you love her and want to make it work, try to do your part and see if she'll meet you half way.

Answer 10

Yes and they way to it is to communicate.....talk about what is going wrong in your marriage and focus and work on the problems as a team.