I really like this girl but i was never planning on breaking her and her husband up. They have two kids together and I will be more than happy to help her take care of them if we really get together now, but i still kind of feel bad about the whole situation. Should I feel bad or thank god that now i might can really be with her?
2006-09-08 07:17:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its hurts to hear that everyone thinks im a terrible person. Trust me I didn't want to fall in love with this girl I just did.
2006-09-08 07:29:45 · update #1
She already showed you that she cannot commit to her marriage vows.
Why do you think she would stay faithful to you?
She slept with you behind her husband's back - she'll do it again to you.
Run away while you still can.
2006-09-08 07:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you do not know everything that is going on in her life. What made her want to cheat on her husband? Was it really because she could not resist you?
Strip away the illusions and you will find that right now sheis like almost every other girl out there, but with kids and the resposibilities of picking up after a broken marriage. That being said, do you think that you could do better than her husband did, and do you think that you are what she needs at this time?
You may think that this is good news for you, but will you remind her of her faied marriage when she looks at you?
2006-09-08 17:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol, it’s nice that you’re concerned about her and her children but you had to know hat this was a possible outcome. Feeling bad means you care but most likely they were having problems well before you or she wouldn’t have slept with you.
Only you know how you really feel about her so if its genuine I wish you luck, be considerate of the children’s feelings and take it slow. It really all depends on how she feels about you and the divorce.
2006-09-08 14:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by passion611 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel bad, you scumball. First, sleeping with a neighbor, second she's married, and now you are even thinking of getting with her in the midst of her divorce. You really are a jerk and I sincerely hope she didn't leave her husband for you.
2006-09-08 14:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by Susan L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think for a minute that God will bless this relationship under the circumstances you spoke of. He would never condone adultery. You can only hope that her relationship didn't end because of you, and move on. It would be better for both of you, and especially the kids.
2006-09-08 14:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by seeya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fell "in love?" maybe. but you certainly should have had the common decency to not act on it. are you rutting boars?
if the two of you can't show even a modicum of restraint, or how to show respect for others, i think you're both bad role-models for the kids.
chances are she was thinking about leaving him already but was too scared until she had the next sap lined up.
and yes, once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater.
2006-09-08 14:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by buffysummers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are the reason a happy marriage broke up then yes you should feel bad. she has kids with this man. whats to say just cause she gets with you she wont get sick of you and cheat on you and leave you for someone else.
2006-09-08 14:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by ms01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah be happy until karma gets you. her kids will grow up hating you and her. oh wait she'll have cheated and dumped you way before then. i keep hearing about the sanctity of marriage but married and single people treat it like it just a dating game you play. your prize from this game is you've acquired you own liar/cheat, and helped the other guy into his own hell of weekend visits, child support and you get to be the "my moms boyfriend" guy that kids always hate. i hope it's worth it.
2006-09-08 14:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by The Key Master 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she shared fun time with you then there may have already been trouble in paradise. Your role in whatever you really don't know. Life is strange. Best you sit down with her and put all your cards on the table and find out what is what and why is why.
2006-09-08 14:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should feel bad. There is no reason for you to feel good. Divorce, separations are very stressful for every one and specially for the kids.
2006-09-08 14:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋