what can i do if a feel atraction to another guy but im married???
2006-09-08 07:17:52 · 14 answers · asked by haki 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think my marriage its over, no talking, no nothing....
2006-09-08 07:26:14 · update #1
Oh Hun, we all go thru this feeling at one ( or two) time or another. It is normal. We, male and females fantasize. Now, weather you act on it or not is up to you. You need to analyze yourself and your relationship with your husband. Are you happy? Is he abusive, do you basically, for the most part: get along, enjoy spending time together? What would be the ramifications of your adultery? Are you willing to jeopardize your marriage of (?) how many years for a one time thing? Do you love this other person, or just lust for some attention? Or perhaps, your just bored and want or need some excitement in your life? You can find excitement if you look for it in all things that life has to offer. Do something different with your house, take a class on something that interests you, meet new friends. Do not jump into something you will regret later. I am glad now that I asked these questions myself years ago. Our marriage is stronger, better now because I did. I could have lost it all, the man who truly loved me unconditionally, my home, etc because of "thoughts" that I had. "Thoughts" and fantasies are normal. Don't throw it all away until you rationalize your true feelings behind it. Please. (teehee, do something unconventional and serve him supper in nothing but a smile..........; )
2006-09-08 07:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by snobunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you do - don't cheat on your husband. I don't know the whole story but trust me, it is not worth all the hurt, and anger that it can cause, and not just with you and your husband but everyone that loves the both of you (friends, family) because they would all look at you differently if you cheated on your husband!
If you find that you can't ignore your attraction to this man, then you need to end it with your husband first. And I don't mean the day after you tell him that you want out. I mean after one of you has left the house, and you both have time to think a little bit. Who knows maybe you do leave him, he will be willing to do a little changing to make things work between the both of you, and maybe you have some changing to do yourself. What ever you decide just don't cheat on your husband!!
Good luck to you and your husband!
2006-09-08 15:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try finding the root of reason. I think its common and everyone feels this way once in their lives. It depends on how you react to the chance. Do you respect your vowels or do you risk being found out? I say think things through then if you’re still wanting to, then discuss it with your husband by being honest or suggesting a threesome. He may feel the same. Thing is most people are fine when it’s their thought or desire but upset if the spouse feels the same.
2006-09-08 14:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by passion611 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling for you both now that is the real answer. Oh, and don't act on it, you'll regret it. You can't take something like that back.
Don't forget about STD's and AIDs. Think about that before you act on anything and stay away from the guy you are attracted to at all costs. If it is at work, no small talk, business only.
2006-09-09 01:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by Martin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to be attracted to other men/women even if you are married...acting on it is usually what is frowned upon. Do something extra special with your husband. Plan a night out, a romantic dinner at home, go for a drive and make out in the car....anything that excites you and makes you feel special. He could probably use the fun himself.
2006-09-08 17:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by Cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a look at your relationship... Are you happy? Can you make a list of things you feel are lacking? Are you two intimate enough? Can you talk to your husband?
I assume you do not want to hurt anyone... Do not act on any of your feelings untill you answered the above questions... And definitely do not act on any feelings until you have talked to your husband. He probablly loves you alot.
2006-09-08 14:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in marriage then don't worry.
Feeling attraction to another man is human.
Try fantasizing with the other man while you do it with your husband. And if you fell like it, talk about it with him, you two will probably enjoy it. Would you enjoy making love with him while he fantasizes with another woman?
2006-09-08 15:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by Xilef Arerbac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't think you could come on answers looking for sympathy did you-because you haven't got any.You are using your husband,and are a player,a chancer-just like this cretin you are attracted to.I hope your husband has a happy life when he gets rid of you-i hope you and goony boy rot in hell.
2006-09-08 14:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look back when you took vows to be faithful.. do you love your husband? if you do this you better pray long and hard he doesn't find out. is this guy worth losing everything for. your not the only one that has had this problem... some acted on it some don't. it is your choice your the one that has to live with it..
2006-09-08 14:38:54 · answer #9 · answered by ruby mason 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out the real reason behind why you want to cheat and see if there is away that you can fix it in your own relationship. And if not don't cheat just break up
2006-09-08 14:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by katrina l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋