my wife went out with her work mates last night,she phoned at 10pm to say she wasn't enjoying herself and was tired and that she would be back at 10.30pm,she ends up turning up at 2.30 am went straight for a shower,she said she ended up at the local nightclub and ended up enjoying herself,am i being paranoid as i think she is not telling me everything.
2006-09-08 07:17:16 · 25 answers · asked by ♥Scottish♥Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ♥Fairy♥ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she told you she was coming home at 10:30 but instead she got back at 2:30 well I would ask her why she came late you deserve an explanation if she gets upset then worry. What was she doing in a nightclub alone if shes married?
2006-09-08 07:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by kookie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is ok. If you act cool and nothing is bothering you, she WILL tell you herself even you don't ask. She will think 'hmm how come he doesn't wonder what I do?'. If you ask her, she may tell you this time. But I can see she will do it again but tell u less and less eventually. Eventually she will say u give her too much stress and have an excuse to get the upperhand.
Just be Cool. Smile and enjoy yourself. LET HER KNOW that you are also busy doing your own stuff - not only she is busy.
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Also,she came home 2:30am. That's good. That mean she arrived home RIGHT AFTER the club close as club mostly close at 2am. She is back home in 30mins...or less as she needs extra time to say goodbye to her co-workers..which cost about 10-15mins. So, in short, she come home fast.
She said she ended up enjoting herself. I guess she has a feel drinks and started to open herself up and talk more. That's what she meant. She was bored in the beginning and called u. That's good. She thinks of you.
Don't be sensitive.
Try to image this:
Her coworker: "Is it ok u go home late. Ur husband not worry?"
ur wife: "Is ok. He is cool. He trusts me =) "
Her coworker: " That's nice. You marry a good husband."
ur wife: "Heehee. Yip"
Don;t ruin this image, dude. GOOD LUCK! ^_^
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It takes a lot to marry someone,especially she gives her life to you to depend on you. Sometimes, she may just want a little excitment outside. But 9 out of 10. She will pick her husband over other things. Just understand her and let her have some fun. She will love you more if she knows about this. You will too if you put urself into her shoes. When u come home late, ur love one didn't get mad at you but still understand u. Isn't that sweet?
2006-09-08 14:21:43 · answer #2 · answered by City hunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably had a shower cause she had been at work all day and ten went dancin at a nightclub. Ask her and see what happens, if you to have a real relationship she will tell the truth, and if she hasn't you will believe her. When asking her dont sound too paranoid, just keep your cool and be straight with her :)
2006-09-08 14:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by Alex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought that she could be telling you everything and that you are paranoid? Just because she didn't have a good time when she called you, doesn't mean she went and did something she wasn't supposed to later on. You need to be talking to your wife about this and not on here asking us for our advice.
2006-09-08 14:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by Prince W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, however she should have called you and said there was a change in plans. But, I don't think she is telling you everything. Heading straight for the shower when you were expecting her several hours ago does sound fishy.
2006-09-08 14:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling trust me, been there done that,,,it is fishy watch her moves and if she is over friendly with you she was doing the nasty,,, I use to do the same thing pretending that I am not having a good time and then end up with a man and return at what time with some lame excuse...
2006-09-08 14:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by Ceanne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, no one can answer that but you. It all depends on how much trust there is in you relationship with your wife. If you are having any insecurities about the situation, I would definitely be worried. Besides your insecurity surfaced for a reason.
2006-09-08 14:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by flirtytburg 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
been there done that dude my EX girlfriend did that crap to me said she was going out or even just going to pay her insurance yeah so 4 hours later and 8 hours later she returns home doing the exact same thing......found out she was cheating on me so dude sorry to say this your not paranoid she isn't telling you everything...
2006-09-08 14:23:15 · answer #8 · answered by Brittany's man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
showering is a sure sign of getting some. sorry dude. but ur suspicions are most likely correct.
I reccommend you call CHEATERS, and joey greco will send some of his detectives out to investigate. then you can confront the ho and I can watch it on tv. its a win win
2006-09-08 14:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by bruce p ♥ ♥ ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a shower at 2.30am is abit strange to me, you should ask her before someone decideds yo tell you.
2006-09-08 14:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by Sassylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋