I am a silgle parent of two and would like to know some of the things to expect, say/tell or do: gathering some insight, not tring to be nosey. I am 39 with a 5 & 3 y.o. Alittle late to start parenthood I kind of agree, but carrer came first and is intact- now focus is on my girls. Any/all insight and/or info we be greatly appreciated, I thank you all
2006-09-08 07:13:48 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Raising 2 girls myself, my heart is with U. I will not say it is going to be easy, but looking back it really wasn't all that hard. Labors of love, some would say. Mistakes will be made- yours and theirs, but don't fret, keep that chin up and take comfort in knowing that the mistakes are few in comparison to the joys and accomplishments you three will be going through. Now, mind you, I may not be an expert, but 2 girls myself (32 & 31) and 8 Grandchildren: I raised them since the youngest was 3 mo. old: and as I can see in most of your other answers, You talk to your children, talk often- they'll listen. And remember- Heart and Patitence. There are decent people out there that are willing and able 2 help- a few have answered U already- don't hesitate to ask
2006-09-08 11:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you made it through the terrible two's, you have gotten a little experience of what it will be like when they get older. You really don't want to know what to expect when they become teenagers.
I raised both of my daughters for 15 years without any help. It is hard, we went through tough times and got through them. Then I got married, had a son, and divorced again. My youngest daughter and my son are 10 years apart.
Patience grows thin from time to time as they grow, but you use your motherly instincts to deal with everything. You have more patience as you grow older.
I am not sure what you are looking for here. Each mother has different approaches for different situations. It is basically what works for you in each situation.
2006-09-08 14:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by Dottie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single parent of three kids under six, and man, is it hard sometimes. Make sure you have a good network of friends and/or family because you will need a backup at some point. The little ones can really drive you bonkers with their constant neediness. One thing I truly ENJOY about being a divorced mom is making the daily decisions about our lives all on my own, without having to tiptoe around their dad. And when they go to Dad's one night a week, get out and enjoy the time to yourself. Don't clean (too much!), but spend some quality time making yourself feel good. You need to take care of yourself first so you can take good care of your kids.
2006-09-08 14:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by mgriffin1873 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love to give you any advice you need. Is there anything specific you are needing to know? Feel free to email me if you like. I have a 9 yr old daughter and an 11 yr old son. Spent many years as a single parent. Went through dating and all that. Made lots of mistakes, few triumphs too! It's part of the territory.
2006-09-08 14:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by jhvnmt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a single parent is the hardest job anyone can take on. you have to be both father and mother.
the biggest thing i can tell you from my own personal experience is: your children need a PARENT not a FRIEND. they need discipline and consistency from you. they need to know they cannot run over you and take advantage of you.
there will be days that you had a horrible day at work ... and then you come home and the kids are yelling and screaming ...and what they want is your time / attention. find a way to give it to them every single day. my son says the biggest thing he missed was time with me.
take breaks for yourself to rejuvenate yourself when you can ... maybe your mom or a friend can watch the girls while you take some "me" time.
always have hugs. always take time out to make them feel important and ALWAYS be consistent with discipline.
good luck!! :)
2006-09-08 14:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by :|: raven :|: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never easy to be mommy and daddy all rolled into one. There will be plenty of times when you will have to be the bad guy. And if you were not around before they may resent you.
It's important to have a support group. Either family or other single parents. You cacn be a single parent but you don't have to go it alone.
2006-09-08 14:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by aQTinMVny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May the God of you choice be with you. I raised 4 girls and it was he!! but they all turned out great. The best advice I could give you is to listen from your heart and answer the same way be honest and talk to them about everything. Trust your instincts.
2006-09-08 14:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is everytime there's a problem, go back.
back when you were their ages, when you were a kid. put yourself in their place, and try to understand them. My mom is a single mom, and i know that if she tried to understand me when i was younger (i'm 14), i would have turned out way better than i did.
2006-09-08 14:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by sk83rChic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always make sure they know who's boss, never let your guard down because they will feed on the smallest sign of weakness!!!!
2006-09-08 14:17:56 · answer #9 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋