Sleeping in own room?

Question

I am a first time mom with a 3 month old son. Right now he is sleeping in our bedroom in a bassinet. I want to start putting him in his crib but how do I get over the seperation problem. And I dont mean him, I mean ME! I just can't stand the thought of him not being in our room anymore. Any good ideas on how I can cope with this?

Answer 1

i also am a first time mom. i struggled with the same thing and found that it was best for both of us if she stayed in my room a little longer. it is natural and good for you to be attached to your baby. if you can't stand the thought of him away from you then DON'T DO IT. my husband was more into the idea of lula being in her own room but he still respected my feelings and at almost a year we moved her to her room with no problems. we were all ready by then. i believe she had no problems because she had time to feel secure, to know i was there for her in the night. if you are nursing as i am, it is much easier to have your baby close. you can put the crib in your room and just move him from the bassinet to the crib. this makes the transition easier when it is time for him to be in his own room.

Answer 2

What helped me was a baby monitor cranked up to high volume. Slowly, I could turn it down to normal level within a couple months. Now, I hear her if she cries, but not just when she rolls over. I did lose a little more sleep than when she was in our room, because every sound I check on her. But in the end worth it, because now she sleeps on her own very well, abd everyone sleeps better. (p.s. her daddy liked the privacy again lol) Good Luck!

Answer 3

this is the beginning of challenges as your child grows up, know that it is ok to feel badly about not being arond your baby, when you put the baby in her own room, buy a baby moniter and keep it on while baby is in the room, that will help you feel that the baby is ok, and you are only a moment away is she needs you. 3 months is still early foe being in other room, ma7ybe 5 to 6 months is better for your nerves, and until then try putting baby in her room during the day and sometimes at night for baby to get used to both places, then when you retire for the night put baby in your room

Answer 4

Do it when you are ready. I was like that, my son continued sleeping in my room in a playpen until he was 6 months old. then I moved him to a crib in his own room. He didn't care at all, I was ok with it too. IF you aren't ready don't force yourself. You just want to get them out of there before they reach a year and start to realize those baby blues DO have some control over mama sometimes! GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

If there is no pressing reason to move him out of your room, don't. Despite what our mothers, friends, people here on answers, etc say, there is absolutely no need to move our babies out of our rooms until they and we are ready. Some babies do prefer to sleep on thier own - such as very hot babies, very sound sensitive babies, and some that just like their own space. Most babies though would prefer to sleep with their mothers - the closer the better. We sleep with our son , who is now 1 yr old, and have all been getting more, better quality sleep since he moved to our bed. This has also help both my husband and I to be more bonded with him. The key thing is to do what works for your baby, yourself and your family, and not to worry about what other people are telling you. It's your child, not theirs, and you know what is best for your family.

Answer 6

Its hard but you just have to do it. Even if you end up in the middle of the night going and getting him.

A good way to do it is gradually. Kind of like smoking, little bits at a time.

Put him in the other room as you go to bed. Then in the middle of the night if you wake up and need him there bring him back in.
But try to resist doing so. Then keep him there the next night, in your room that is. The first night just know that he will be staying in your room the next night so it will help with any anxiety.
Just do this routine every other night until you are able to completely wind yourself off.
Good luck.

Answer 7

spend a lot of time with im before you decide to put him in the crib. This is healthy. He needs time to play with his toys, etc. Check on him periodically or get someone else in the house to. The child cannot be with you 24/7. You must realize this is unhealthy for him. When you do leave him in the crib make sure he has safe toys to occupy him or music. Also every once in a while like on one of the weekend days. Move the crib in to another room and he can spend time in the crib with you or someone else in a different enviornment. That is the way I would handle that situation. I have a 7year old.

Answer 8

All of motherhood is going to be one big separation issue. If you are not ready to take him to his own room, don't. What a lot of first time moms don't realize is that your anxiety is going to disrupt him. If you aren't ready, he won't be because he will know how upset you are.

If you really feel you need him out, then just suck it up, and do it. There is not much you can do to make it better, except know that you are doing what is right for your family. Always remember that only you know what your family needs!

Answer 9

With my first daughter, she slept with us every night and now she is 4 and she still sleeps in our bed. I also have a second daughter,18 months, and she started out sleeping in her bassinet in our room. She then slept in her baby bed in our room and then in her and her sisters room. It was a gradual process but I definately learned from my first daughter that I get better sleep without her in my bed.

Answer 10

Just gotta do it and get it over with. The more you do it, the easier it will become. I keep a baby monitor in my room so i can hear him when he wakes up. He'll be just fine, even if it takes you a little bit to get to him.