Ok we have been together for a while and he moved in with me. Ok now we both work and the bills are a little hard to manage but I did when I was alone. But with someone else being there it should not be a problem. But the weekend before rent is due he worked on and fixed both of his cars. When I asked him what was he putting on the rent he comes talking about all his personal bills and that he could pay the rental bill which is less than fifty bucks. What the hell?
2006-09-08 07:10:52 · 13 answers · asked by tasgilla 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're not interested in his personal problems. You need to tell him that you need have the rent, and if he cannot afford it, then you'll have to find a new roommate. Nothing personal, just business. For him to disregard the rent for his personal problems shows not only his self-centeredness, but his utter lack of respect for you. Girl, you just got slapped across the proverbial face and you don't even know it. Do something about it, and do it now. I'm SO pissed and it's not even my problem.
2006-09-08 07:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by punkdrunkard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately my dear everyone was not taught responsibility at home and even if Moma tried...some of us are slow. You never know, this could be your husband some day and he needs to understand what you stand for now. Sit down and talk to him real good. If you two are living together that's kinda like a marriage but not official. Explain to him what my dad told me a long time ago..." You don't have any money until your bills are paid" So, if the bills were not paid only one of those cars should have been fixed.If you give an inch he'll take a mile. And you deserve to have some indulgence from working too and if you are burdened with all the bills then you are neglecting yourself and some of the things we need as woman (makeup, hair done, nails, ect) Don't even doubt yourself..put your foot down. Good luck
2006-09-08 07:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by wannakno 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl, we're somewhat in the same situation. we both know what we can do by ourselves, but hey, a little help won't hurt. Right! But for some reason thats not the case. we need to let it go and get our independence back cause " a sister can do bad by herself." Men like that are insecure with themselves because they want and expect women to be dependent on them. but were too strong for that and will never allow them to feel or think that we are. The truth of the matter is they aren't ready to mentally handle a real woman.
2006-09-08 07:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by flirtytburg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss with him, that if you wants to keep living there, to help out with the rent. Also, maybe sit down and go over a budget together.
2006-09-08 07:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by texashoney2466 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money problems can really mess up a relationship. You both need to either make more money or spend it more responsibly. If you don't talk to him seriously about this, you might not last to much longer. Make him promise to try and be a better provider. If he doesn't, try moving apart until he proves that he can be, or not.
2006-09-08 07:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is the first time maybe his car expenses truly set him behind but if this is ongoing and typical issue then you have to decide is your relationship with him worth the other problems are you willing to continue on without a change
2006-09-08 07:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by littlewing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be calm, let him know what it is you need from sharing space, if he can't do what is necessary and contribute to the home then ask him to leave. You need to take care of yourself and it doesn't sound like you wanna be his sugar mama. Good Luck!
2006-09-08 07:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by mettapax 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Budget need to be discussed before he moved in!
Discuss it now or it will grow into a bigger problem!
Who pays what and when has to be agreed upon.
2006-09-08 07:13:58 · answer #8 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
truth is girl you allowing him to use you tell him either 50% of all bills or he has to go straight up and true one can do bad by themselves . we are all trying to get ahead but this fool is bringing you down . let him take his broke but on to the next sucker willing to support him
2006-09-08 07:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by susi98223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about locking the door and leaving his bags outside the hallway? I think that would work.
2006-09-08 07:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋