Okay I have a couple of friends whom I have trusted with some stuff, personal business about my life that I heard that they discuss freely about it in front of other people I know. That means that are ot keeping their mouth shut about what I tell them. One of them gets offended because she says that I lie to her and mke her feel as if she is not trustworthy but her and I do not hang out. So my question is, Am I a liar if she is asking me person questions that I do not want her to know about simply because they are so personal. I mean her and I do not shop together and we are not close like that. We barley talk now because she has deemed me a liar. I just don't want my business out there. SHould I just let her go??
2006-09-08 07:05:06 · 13 answers · asked by lovenstrength83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you have answered your own question.. She is the liar, she is not worth your time!!!
2006-09-08 07:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by Not Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are describing the need for healthy boundaries in this relationship. Everyone has the right to self care and privacy, which should be respected. You have discovered, at a high price, that some people can not be trusted and you need to be careful who you share your personal business with. There are great books out there regarding boundaries in relationship. People who get angry when someone is assertive about their feelings and limits, is not respectful of others and is demonstrating a "me, me, me" attitude. I work on relationships that are worth my investment. I would let her go.
2006-09-08 14:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by midge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jenny if she was u r true friend she wouldn't have do any thing about u and told ur business like that that is not a true friend first of all and she not be mad that u don't want to be u friend and then she just lose a good friend if i was u i would keep the ppl that u trust the most and kick to the corb the rest so be safe have a Bless Day lele
2006-09-08 14:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by lele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is stop telling your business, if it is not her it will be someone else, just be friendly to them all, and listen to their problems, (smile) Women have a tendency to gossip, if not you someone else, just don"t give them any of your business to go with. Try and work out your problems on your own, or ask Mom?
2006-09-08 14:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do not speak to her that often then she is not considered a good friend if she is calling you a liar be a liar and tell her lots of lies ones that could be impossibally true but when she tells people (if she believes it) she will look a fool if it were me i would not say you are a liar.
2006-09-08 14:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by Hitcher In The Picture 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you tell her something else apart from the truth, then you are a liar...if you don't want other people to know the truth just tell them you do not wish to disclose it.
excuse is a form of lie
2006-09-08 14:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by Angel's Smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, you don't want this type of friend who can't take no for an answer. once a friend break your trust and went on and speak about you behind your back!!! come on now. there is no sense of keeping her around.
2006-09-08 14:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, let her go. And who cares if she thinks you are trustworthy? You know she isn't.
2006-09-08 14:08:40 · answer #8 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-09-08 14:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU'RE BUSINESS IS YOU'RE BUSINESS. FRIENDS ARE A DIME A DOZEN IF YOU HAVE TWO GREAT FRIENDSHIPS IN YOUR LIFE COUNT YOURSELF AS ONE OF THE LUCKY ONES. DUMP HER!!!!
2006-09-08 14:08:55 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋