My ex-boyfriend and I were planning to reconcile. All was going well until his ex-gf told me to say hi to him.. and we had a bad past cause my ex broke up with me before to be with her. Now i'm scared the same thing might happen again.. he says he doesn't love her anymore, but he seemed soo happy to hear from her. i'm having doubts.. what should i do? should i believe him and stay, or should i just go?
2006-09-08 06:53:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
all things aside.... do you trust him?
if not, u need to let him go. it won't be fair to him if u keep judging him, and u can't let go of the past. and it wasn't fair to u when he broke up w/ u to get w/ the other girl.
he needs to build up that trust w/ you before u can go on. and that means Communication. and he needs to do whatever it takes to satisfy Your needs and wants.. if he can't do that, will not do it, or doesn't know how to do that, i think u should part ways. if he is willing to learn it, and is truly sorry for the past, and you Believe him, then trust him. if u love him, u have to give him a chance. but if u feel in ur heart that u can never forgive or forget, than it is best to move on. cuz ur not a fair girlfriend if u always harbor negative feelings towards him..it's not ur fault, its his. but either way, u can't control your trust, he has to WORK at it to build it back up.
2006-09-08 06:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the source of the problems that broke you up in the first place has been taken care of and is no longer an issue, those problems will reappear in time. It is probably best, considering the complexity of your interpersonal relationships with this guy and the ex-girlfriend, that you move on and don't waste any more of your life on something that is ultimately going nowhere.
2006-09-08 06:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the problems you had before are still there. It is rarely wise to go back in time....you will not be happier this time than you were the last time..he did you dirt before, it will happen again. There are plenty of good guys out there, but you are not going to find one if you keep hanging on to the past. Good luck
2006-09-08 06:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good relationship is based on trust. You seem not to have any trust in your boyfriend because of his past behavior. You must talk to him and see if he is serious about reconciling. You can usually tell if someone is telling the truth unless they are a real cad. I'd pray about it first.
2006-09-08 06:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by roofergirl30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,just move on cos there is not trust left in your relationship n over all he doesnt derserve to be trusted,he just wants u for fun n keep u hanging to come back to when he has no one to go to...dont let him take advantage of u in the name of love....trust is the foundation of every relationship n if that is broken you have a warning to reconsider!!good luck!!
2006-09-08 07:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything rash. Sit down and talk to him about it. Tell him you are feeling insecure. And you don't like that way that feels. Ask him if he has any unresolved feelings towards this other girl. And if so, maybe you should tell him to go to her. Don't stay with him if you are unsure of his loyalty.
2006-09-08 06:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you are through. If he feels the same way in 30 days then tell him to call you and you will think about it. Until then tell him to leave you alone. You don't have time for his drama
2006-09-08 07:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by bre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go, move on. it sucks to have a relationship filled with doubts & wondering if you are going to get your heart broke.
2006-09-08 06:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you believe him you should give him a chance,or if you have doubts i wouldn't risk too much,
anyway Good LUCK
2006-09-08 06:59:24 · answer #9 · answered by Ivy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are having doubts, don't go back to him
2006-09-08 06:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by tonyh92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋