Okay I have recently found out that a friend has betray me. Maybe not even betray but she just is not honest with me about little things. she seems to always have motives behind everything that she does. I have confronted her a couple of times but she has excuses for everything. What should I do??
2006-09-08 06:46:34 · 16 answers · asked by lovenstrength83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if i were u, i would distance myself..not get too close to her... reason is because you can't TRUST her. =T and u know what.. u can tell her all u want that she is doing bad things, u want her to change...but she won't do it unless SHE wants to. therefore, if u distance urself, she will learn that either she has to change to be ur friend, or she will just leave you alone to find someone else who will allow her to act that same way.
remember, even if u have BEST intentions, u can Never force someone to change. but, u can change Yourself.. how you act, and react, to situations. therefore, your reaction can now be instead of getting upset, just not speaking to her as often, and not believing her as often either. don't tell her too many things, and don't allow her to get to involved in ur life, so she doesn't try to manipulate Your situation. you can change your actions, not hers.
good luck.... hopefully she will learn she needs to change because she may lose your friendship. if u stay there, u are just reinforcing bad behavior.
2006-09-08 06:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom use to tell me to keep your friends close but your enimes closer. Just be carrful not to turn your back on this so called friend. You will find that she will stab you so hard in the back that you will feel the pain for years on. Just know that you have every right not to trust her and if I was you I would tell her why. If she doesn't want to talk then she does not care for you is not your friend. After that I would drop the friend ship and tell her why. There are other people out there that are good. Keep good people around you and good things will happen, keep bad people around you and bad things will alway happen to you . It's your choice but I would pick the good before the bad any day of the week. Sorry to be so blunt. It's good that you noticed it now then later. good luck.
2006-09-08 13:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by Cassie O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want a friend that's not honest about everything in general? She sounds like bad news. Don't be friends with someone who is not going to be honest. Since she is not an honest person, she is not trustworthy. Life is too short to be dealing with B.S. Sit her down and tell her openly and honestly why you don't want to be her friend anymore. If you don't want to do that, stop talking to her. She'll get it eventually. Do what you think is best for you.
2006-09-08 13:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to have a friend that lies to you? If she's doing that who knows what will be next. You did the right thing by taking the first step and confronting her but if the lies continue I would say it's time to drop that friend.
Good Luck.
2006-09-08 13:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are naturally catty and jealous. They generally want their friends to be happy, but not as happy as they are. If your friend is this like, it is a lack of confidence on her part. If you are not like this, look at it as a compliment to your self-assuredness.
If it still bothers you, confront her. I have had to sever ties to certain friends in my lifetime and it's the best thing you can do. I do not have the time or energy for people who cannot add something to my life, and vice versa.
2006-09-08 13:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by Big Larry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adjust,friends are hard to come by as you get older.If your friend is betraying you then don't put yourself at risk limit the info you feed this person.You don't want to completly remove yourself and later have to eat your words she might just be the only one there the day you need someone.
2006-09-08 13:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by desayunogratis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not worth your time,move on get a new friend.I think she might be just using you too.
I would never forgive or patch up with such ppl.
2006-09-08 13:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop her cuz she sounds like trouble. been there and i got very hurt by her. even after she hurt me and shut me out of her life shes still continued to be a sneak with me bf.
2006-09-08 13:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,since she did not accept when you confronted its better if you start ignoring her,just stay away and donr share your things with her and if she asks about it you know what to answer....dont let her affect you so much!!
2006-09-08 13:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust her or believe anything she says...its time to find a new friend.
2006-09-08 13:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋