Would you try to conceive even if your husband didn't want anymore children?

Question

I know its dishonest but I love him so much and know he will change his mind once I get pregnant again. I dont want my daughter to be alone when we are gone. I want her to have a full sibling not a half and am ready for the consequences if he wants to leave me once I do get pregnant. What are your thoughts??

Answer 1

it is a tricking question. i understnad your point of view of having another child so your first child has a sibling to grow up with,. and it seems to me you have already made up your mind regarding thing. but yes, you could lose your husband in the process. why is it he does not want any more people because he has other children form other relationships? you know accidents always happen,. and there is no definitly way not to get pregnant unless you get your tube tide. so you can get pregnant, there is a 1% chance getting pregnant on the pill.
good luck

Answer 2

I think you are not fully thinking this through... You are willing to become pregnant without telling your husband even after he has stated his view of not wanting another child, and live with the consequences of your actions even if that means he leaves you....

You want to do this so your child will have a sibling when you and your husband are gone 40-50-60 years from now... What about now your daughter needs her father as a full time father not a weekend dad..

Get your head out of the clouds and your feet back on the ground, you have lost perspective and tricking a man into being a father when he has clearly stated he doesn't want more children is both selfish and stupid...

Answer 3

A baby is a wonderful thing, but it is also stressful. I cant imagine doing that to my husband. It is not your decision alone, it is both of yours, if you have another child will affect both of your lives, not just yours. You shouldnt be so selfish. You should respect your husband more than that. Dont get pregnant, he will know you did it on purpose and it will ruin your marriage. Your daughter would rather have her parents together than have a sibling and her parents hate each other. Truly think about what you will be doing before you do it. Talk to your husband some more. He may come around. And even if he doesnt right now he might decide he wants another child in a few years.

Answer 4

Quit lying to yourself - you do not "love him so much" if you are willing to be so dishonest and deceitful with him. If your daughter already has a half sibling, she already has more than a lot of kids do and she will NOT be "alone when you are gone".

I have a half brother and a full blooded sister and there is no difference in my love for them - you would never even know that we weren't all full-blooded siblings.

Answer 5

Under no cicumstances must you have another child against the wishes of your husband. Your statement that you are ready for the consequences concerns me. Are you saying that you would rather have tour daughter grow up without a father than a sibling. I think you must go and sit down and have a serious rethink about your statement.

Answer 6

that having another child is not a good idea if it means losing you relationship with your husband. and what's wrong with a half-sibling? me and my half-brother look out for one another, and we get along great. we forget most of the time and just tell people we are full siblings- not that it really matters.

if your husband doesn't want a child and you still do, you two should discuss it further. DO NOT GET PREGNANT ON PURPOSE UNLESS YOU BOTH AGREE TO IT!

good luck

Answer 7

My thoughts are your nutts!!Do you really believe by having another child its going to help?HOney its going to make it worse,and why in the world would you even want to bring another child into your problems,not fair to the new child on the way!!You already dont want one child alone now your going to *** another to a divorce cause thats whats going to happen anyways,by you getting pregnant is only giving you a little time and thats it cause he will still leave you in the end!!I cant believe what im seeing you write ,do you have no self-esteem about your self?Get a life girl and dont be dumb and even do such a crazy thing,im not trying to be mean just real with ya!!

Answer 8

If you love him you will not use dishonest blackmail tactics. Also the fact that you would rather your daugher lose her father than go without a sister is twisted and sick. Tell your husband to get a vasectomy because you cannot be trusted.

This is why ALL MEN SHOULD USE A CONDOM EVERY TIME!
This is unfortunate proof that women cannot be trusted with birth control and men need to take responsibility for their procreation.

Answer 9

im in the same situation, but you are wrong. my hubby and i each have one of our own, we both have custody. His son is 11 and my daughter is 9. He doesnt want to start all over again, but I want one that came from both of us. However, I will not ever resort to tricking my husband or deceiving him to get what I want. Your husband should be your first priority, then your children (unless, God-forbid, your hubby put your children in danger) should be your next priority. When your chidren are grown and gone, he will still be there with you, provided you havent run him off.

Answer 10

well i think this is a decision made by the both of you. i had one child with my spouse because i was also raising his daughter so i always thought my son would have a sibling but just recently my stepdaughter was kidnapped by her real mother from school and my son is so lonely and depressed, he is 5. i think kids need siblings because as i remember when i was a child i had my brother and it was so cool to have someone always there when u need them. talk to your husband and explain to him that u are not planning on having a whole houseful of kids just someone for your daughter. hopefully he understands you. i am crossing my fingers for you.