Me and my 10 yr old father seperated after 12 years,he's now going out with a woman with 3 boys.The land lady just told me that the rent is backed up and he owes her 1,000 and something dollars,she told me that he told her when he went to court that I was'nt working and neither was he.Which is a damn lie.We both are working.That's why I left his sorry ***.But he still comes here to eat and I still wash his clothes and I did'nt take him for child support thinking o.k well he's paying the rent.I am pissed!Any advice ?Please I am at the end of my rope.
2006-09-08 06:38:58 · 18 answers · asked by dccuttie75 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all, quit taking care of him. The more you do for him the more he is going to keep coming back. Second, you better get child support from him. It is his responsibility as a parent to help out with this child. I dont care if he has to work three jobs, he should pay child support, your rent and any court costs. He is using you so you wont go after him for the money!!
2006-09-08 06:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by b_iceman2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that you are upset but at whom? O.K. if the relationship is over and he is now with someone else..........why are you still washing his clothes and cooking for him. I don't get it. Taking care of his child is not an option, so whether by choice or by force, he has to step up to the plate and do what he needs to do as a father. Don't take out your hurt on him by degrading him. Just move on. Your child is the most important person in this situation; make sure that all of his needs are being met.
2006-09-08 14:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to do what's best for you and your child. Why are you taking care of him by feeding him and washing his clothes? He's with someone else...let his woman take care of him. Take him to court and get an order for him to pay support, if not, your son will suffer in the end as he will not pay anything and all costs will be left to you.
Good Luck
2006-09-08 13:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please let go of the anger it will just eat away at you..trust me. You'll find if you just let the anger go and forget about revenge you will be a lot happier and less stressed. Make the changes to your life that you deserve such as getting child support and take him to court to have him pay for what he owes in rent. Don't let him use you anymore. Take charge of your own life. Good luck!
2006-09-08 14:03:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the situation as a whole and move on with your life! Or just kick him out and tell him to live with his girlfriend! Tell him that she won't like making him food and washing his clothes! Yeah,,,, make him wonder. Make him believe that no one else will put up with his crap and just go on strike. If he doesn't leave, drive him out. Have a party!!! Get a bunch of single guys to make him so jealous, wear sexy clothes to make his girlfriend feel like a homeless person!!!!!haha,,,, I would do that. Make him feel like he's just a fly on the wall!!! Because obviously he believes that he's sooo important that you still do stuff for him! Tell him, You have two hands, make it your own damn self! And go off and do your hair and makeup. Tell him that your not his dog anymore!!!
If he resorts to violence, call 911!
2006-09-08 13:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop communication with him... he is reaping rewards and not doing ****! He can show you he can take care of things them look into helping him out. Sorry girl, if you are on the lease you are just as responsible for his *** so get that changed and seperate from the issue!
2006-09-08 13:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop feeding him and washing his clothes and go back to court for child support. Then pay your own rent
2006-09-08 13:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That just shows you that you have been had. Nothing you can do except for stop doing his dinners and laundry and go after him for child support.
2006-09-08 13:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consult an attorney as soon as possible to file for child support. If he doesn't pay you then they will start garnishing his wages. Good luck with your situation.
2006-09-08 13:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop worrying about him and what he does. stop being a gossip. live your life to the best of your ability. DONT ever use "payback" against someone, thats just wrong on so many levels (ever hear of karma?) ignor his sorry *** and get on with your life
2006-09-08 13:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by daisy6570 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋