if your wife says she loves you but is not in love with you is their any hope?

Answer 1

Hope? Maybe, and maybe not. I am so sorry, going through something similar myself. He just won't admit it. Your wife was honest with, and if I could give out brownie points I would. Why, because the truth is what you needed. Might not have been what you wanted to hear, but it's what you needed to hear. The choice is yours...do you think you get a relationship going by yourself. That's what is telling you, Are you strong enough mentally and physically to handle the stress and strain of being the one, who is always going to get hurt. She's not feeling the love, the passionate kind any longer, so she doesn't have the desire or the want to and even maybe care how things are effecting you anymore. She loves you, but she's not head or heels, drop everything you are doing to be with person, you make my heart complete love any longer.

When I enter a room, I look first thing for my husband. When you enter into a room, I bet the first person you look for his your wife. Well, honey our spouses are looking everywhere but for us. It hurts, and it breaks my heart to tell you this. Do you think you can stand knowing that you are no longer #1 in her life? Can you live with her loving her like you do, and wondering who she is thinking about. Can you do without the passion and the caring?

I don't know how much longer I can handle my situation. Unhappy with him or unhappy without him. Everytime I reach for him, I feel like a kid getting their hand slapped trying to get a cookie from the cookie jar. I want my cookie, I want my passionate loving husband back,and I just don't think I can live with him....being roommates..no thanks...I would whether, be on my own...maybe even finding a man who will make me his #1 , and wants to spend time with me. Looks for me when I enter a room, just as I will him.

I am not upset with my husband for falling out of love with me, it's the denial and lies that hurt. The secret phone calls, texts, and long hours unaccounted for. He's afraid to come home, because I might want him to talk me. That's sad, and I am tried of throwing my own pity party, and I told him so. Sweetie, please please take care of yourself. Everyone needs someone to love, honor, and cherish them....I deserve that...and you deserve that too.

God bless us all.................

Answer 2

Yes, there is always hope, have you asked her why she isn't in love with you anymore, some couples drift apart when the kids grow up, feel they are been taken for granted by the other, have you just started to take her for granted all the time these days, you could sit down with each other and try to talk things through, is she going through a crisis and telling you she doesn't love you because she is worried you are going to walk out on her and not be able to cope with what she is going through, just talk to her and try to get her to be honest and to tell you why she has suddenly said this to you, talking things over is much cheaper than a divorce, good luck.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to say if that is the way she still feels after going through various avenues to try and recommit to the marriage, I'm afraid there does not seem much hope at all, unless she just wants to live with you for the sake of finances or the roof over her head.

Do you really want to live with someone who doesn't love you the same? Its hard but these things happen, and its better for her to be honest with you rather then living a life of pretence or in a marriage of convenience that's going nowhere.

Answer 4

It depends on how long she has felt like this and whether she really knows how she is feeling. I recently separated from my husband as I wasn't in love with him anymore, but I had felt like it for a long time and we were basically still together for the kids.
I do love him and he will always be my best friend in the world but we were arguing and that's not good.
Sit down and really talk about this, maybe she is just feeling really low, or you are doing something that you could perhaps change to make things better, but if it is over then let it go, and try to stay friends.

Answer 5

There is hope if you both work hard, treat her like you just met her, do things to get her to fall back in love with you again...
Are you in love with her or do you just love her? This could be a big reason she fell out of love with you to begin with, it happens though and it can happen all the way through a marriage thats why you both have got to want to be together and why you have to do things that make eachother happy.

Answer 6

I feel the same about by husband. We have been married 28 years and i fill like i have fell out of love with him. I love him because he is my kids father, but not like a wife should love her husband. Im not in love with him anymore. I left him for 5 months, went back and now I want to leave again cause I am so Unhappy !!!! So if she is telling you that its time to move on.!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

YES!! At least she still loves you. What that usually means is you two are a little out of touch. try to talk to her and see if she needs a little tlc. also if the problem is a big one a marriage counselor or therapist can help. All hope is NOT lost!!

Answer 8

Yes. The type of passion that makes a person fall in love wanes after a while whereas deep love lasts forever.

Answer 9

sorry but if a women says she loves you but is not in love with you it usually means she shes you as more of a friend/brother than a lover she has feelings for you but not in a sexual way or the way you were hoping. she doesnt see you anymore as her soulmate if she ever did but want to remain friends and still probably have you in her life in a platonic way.

hope this helps sorry if it was not the answer you were hopping for but i speak from a womens point of view

Answer 10

Really no, being in love means that there is a chance to work out problems. If she says that she loves you but is not in love with you , it usually means that she consideres you as still her friend but not the love of her life.