I used to be devastated before when I had strong evidence. Now, without shedding a tear, I quietly tell him I don't believe him and I'm able to have a good night sleep.
2006-09-08 06:20:06 · 27 answers · asked by Optimistic 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe your not in love with him but your in love with the concept of being married. Maybe it frightens you more that he knows you know he is unfaithful. It was one thing when you speculated his cheating, then you only had to desensitize yourself from the situation. Now that you know and it's been brought to the table as an open subject, this means there is no charades of denial between you both, and now thats put a great deal of responsibility on your marriage staying together. Maybe it didnt bother you before because as long as it was never brought to light then it wouldnt have to be dealt with, now that has all changed. And now you can no longer pull the covers over your eyes and go to sleep even though you would like to.
Im sorry but this may be the most positive step in your life, and it he has been cheating on you for a while, I think you and him both have been lying to each other for the sake of not having to confront what that lie is. Embrace this time. It is no ones fault. People grow apart every day. Dont blame yourself or him you both just need something more. You are just too damn scared to admit it. There is nothing to fear except fear itself.
I wish you well for this is a time of death, and new beginnings
2006-09-08 06:35:25 · answer #1 · answered by fryedaddy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's possible you've fallen out of love and for sure you've set up your own defence mechanism. If you don't care how can it hurt you - right? It's like your numb - right? Have you tried marriage counciling? My advice for you would to make every effort to save your marriage before throwing in the towel - especially if there are kids in the picture. Marriage counciling would be a great start.
Good Luck
2006-09-08 13:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by Chargers Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you stand strong in your conviction and could care less about the consequences. Maybe you've come to the realization that it's just about time for the two of you to go your own separate ways.
2006-09-08 13:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you do not shed a tear after having evidence of infidelity, then it is time to get a divorce.
2006-09-08 13:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps over time you have lost what you once had for him. if he cheats on you, you need to move on. he will more likely not stop doing it, eventually you may end up doing to same thing after you too have completly lost everything between each other. Move on, that will be the best thing for you and him
2006-09-08 13:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by zermenoj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have accepted the fact that he is sleeping with other women, and it will give you the green light to suggest that you join a swinger club so you can have some real fun.
2006-09-08 13:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by thebushman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may mean that you are falling out of love with him. You are seperating yourself from his labido, so he can't hurt you anymore. Maybe you could try couseling if you still want to stay with him. Or maybe it's time to move on. To someone else.
2006-09-08 13:24:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've either accepted the fact that he has been unfaithful and don't care or you now feel like you have "the upper hand"on him because he now is bothered by the fact that you don't care.you go girl.
2006-09-08 13:24:44 · answer #8 · answered by willis_is_40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that means divorce is right around the corner.
2006-09-08 13:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by gemm77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have quit caring what he does and have learned to take responsibility for your actions only-It is called wisdom!!
2006-09-08 13:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋