what exactly can i do?

Question

What can i do to show my husband that he is still appealing to me? I am 5 months pregnant and its about that time sex isnt a big priority. My husband is thinking that i dont enjoy it with him anymore. That is so not the case. Please give me some suggestions as to what i can do for him. Serious answers please, and no well give him a BJ that is not what i am looking for.

OMG i have talked until my faced turned blue and he still doesnt get it. The sex hasnt been like non existent to admit the truth its there but not as much wish is going down alot to maybe just 1 time a day

i have gotten some really stupid answers as well as some good answers. For the people who think i dont want to have sex read this ok. You dont read very well. I said that it has gone down to about 1 time each day that is 7 times a week that is more than some of you get. So if it went down to that then that means we did have sex alot. Next time read the whole thing before thinking i dont want to have sex with my husband at all

Answer 1

I had the same problem. All I did was keep reassuring him about how much I really loved him and how sexy I thought he was and how I couldn't wait to get back to our regular sexual routine. My fiance understood but he still felt like it was him.

I wish I had a great answer for you but I think talking to him is really the only solution. Its hard for a guy to understand because they have never and never will be pregnant.

Answer 2

I was in the same situation with my childs father. While I was pregnant, sex just wasnt an option. He thought that I didnt care for him anymore. Maybe if you guys have a nice romantic evening lets say make him a wonderful dinner and have candles and all that. Then run a nice warm bath and you guys just have a romantic alone time *non-sexual* just sentual maybe he will feel that you are still into him. I mean Im not sure though!!! But I know what ur feeling because I dealt with the same situation! Good Luck hun

Answer 3

Without realizing it most mothers or expecting mothers dont realize what the father goes through. It is a tough time for them. They want to be so involved in the pregnancy that they even get sympathy pains from the pregnancy where they actually gain weight, get morning sickness, and fell bloating. Just make sure to keep him involved. Let him know how you feel and if sex in the bedroom is just completely out of the question find other things to do to show your appreciation. Like do cute little gifts. Buy his a medal that says "Terrific Dad Award" or something in that nature to show him you reall do care and that he is a part in the pregnancy just as much as you are.

Answer 4

Well, the book what to expect when you're expecting could help. It tells fathers what to expect when mom is expecting and mothers too. but he could get online and do some research to maybe even chat with other pregnant moms. Have him talk to your doctor. Or even a friend whose wife has been or is pregnant. With my husband, BJ's were good enough for him until after baby was born, but I couldn't always do that because of stomach quesiness. And he had to stand up while I was doing it because big belly won't allow for you to bend over to perform. If you don't like that idea, hand jobs worked for days I was to quesy to do it. Just the fact that I was doing it and he could touch me was good enough. Your hubby needs to be more understanding and considerate of your condition. Educating him can do that. Good Luck

Answer 5

Alot of times in pregnancy you lose your sexual desires due to the hormonal changes etc. Tell him its not him or you thats its just this pregnancy that is making it hard for u to become aroused and just wait it out for another 5 months after healing etc. Let him know that there are other things u both can do that do not involve sex. The same thing happened with both of my pregnancies. In your last trimester u will become wayy more energetic and aroused to the point u will want it more than him. Just for now lay low and enjoy the pregnancy.

Answer 6

Try to spend intimate time with him without sex. Have coffee(decaf) with him and talk, snuggle and watch TV. Tell him honestly how you feel. Tell him sex is not comfortable at this time and it is not that your are not turned on it is quite the opposite. Tell him that it is just when you get turned on the baby decides to wreak havoc inside and the mood changes from intimate to uncomfortable. Those are the reasons women don't have sex as a priority at this time in a pregnancy. Reassure him with both tenderness and words that he is still sexy as hell.

Answer 7

I went through this before and what I did was set up a romantic night, candles music, dinner, the works. Make sure you wear something sexy in his fave color, even if you little belly sticks out, that turned my hubby on the most. And use a lot of alternate postions during love making, this will get him really turned on. Tell him how much you love him and explain that you can't control how your body feels and that you hope he can one day understand what is happening.

Good Luck and I hope this works for you.

Answer 8

Have you told him what you just said? I mean seriously? Sit down and talk to him, and explain the feelings that you are going through. I would think you would be able to reassure him by talking. And if you are still physically able, you might need to sometimes forget that you aren't in the mood.
Good luck

Answer 9

a man has needs and when a wife doesnt give him what he needs 9 times out of 10 he ends up getting it somewhere else if sex is unappealing to you because of pregnancy you should speak to your doctor could be hormones a wife should love intimacy as much as her husband is it possible that he needs some help making it more pleasurable for you

Answer 10

Like you're done with sex until the baby comes?? I had sex the entire 9 months....I'm not sure...guys aren't big "talkers" but have you explained it to him? Do things that he like to do go out to a movie or something he likes and show him a lot of attention I guess.