i had a guy friend his party was not too long ago and well...he did not want me to go at all. I feel he is doing this b/c of jelousy. He lives an hour away from me. Should i stay and get over it, or leave. we been together 8 months......PLEASE HELP!!!!!
2006-09-08 05:55:17 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk to him, nice and easy. If he is getting to your nervs and don't want this type of relationship, leave.
But sometimes, just sometimes you have to pay attention on what he is saying. Specially if this is teh first time he acts this way. Maybe he sees that your friend wants something more
2006-09-08 05:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by xavier_del_rio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl...leave...people have no right to say what you can and can't do. just think to yourself...do you want to be in this situation for the rest of your life. and it's only gonna get worse. Soon enough he won't even let you see your family. Nobody deserves that kind of disrespect. You have a mind of your own and friends of your own. Also, 8 months isn't long enough for him to be treating you like that anyway. He sounds like he is very insecure and jealous. He needs to sort out his own **** before he can be comfortable with you doing what you want. However if you really love him...then talk to him about it and let him know that he has nothing to worry about...that you are coming home to him. That he is the one for you. If that;s how you feel. My advise is someone who is that insecure isn't worth wasting your time with. If he doesn't trust you then he cant expect you to trust him....he obviously has done something wrong or had something done to him to make him that way. Let him figure it out and in the meantime...DO YOUR OWN THING!!! Good luck
2006-09-08 06:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by *~*~Rochelle~*~* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a dude like that before, I ended up getting hit. Then I never saw him again. Him not letting you go because of the other guy is a BAD sign! You need to drop him. You can't and should not let him dictate your life like that. You are your own person. I'm serious. There is a line when his over-protectiveness becomes a danger to your safety. I've been there girl, I strongly urdge you to bail out. You can do better than him. You can find a man that trusts you!
2006-09-08 05:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by All I have to do is dream... 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 1/2 years and he has always been very overprotective of me even before we started dating.But he lighten up after our first year of dating. And we are getting married next year. I can't say that an overprotective boyfriend is a bad thing. At least he lets you know that he cares. But if he doesn't lighten up then I suggest you need to find a new boyfriend. Also tell him that he needs to lighten up a bit. You also need to pay attention because he can come abusive. GOOD LUCK!!! Trust me you already know what to do.
2006-09-08 06:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5171989 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me & my bf are going through this right now...i'm very independant and he tries to control what i do and we argue a lot....make up then argue again...break up get back together....people say oh just leave because it wont work out but its hard when you love someone to just walk away and never turn back....tell him exactly how you feel and let him know he has to trust you and if he doesn't it's not gonna work out....see if there is a change...
2006-09-08 06:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by Cassie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't trust you, you're gonna have a hard time with this relationship. You'll always argue about something and you need your space and your friends. But before you do anything drastic, talk to him. Maybe he just doesn't know how you feel and maybe he'll change his behavior once you talk to him. Tell him that this isn't gonna work if he doesn't trust you and that a friend is just a friend.
2006-09-08 05:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Megan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well without trust you have nothing.
Obviously the distance away is getting to him or maybe he's guilty of something and thinks you'll do the same as he does. Who knows! But I would sit discuss it with him and figure out a medium.
2006-09-08 06:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl bye, why r u contemplating on staying.. he is not ur mom or dad, he is ur bf and he can't tell u where u can and can't go and u need to let him know that.. ur not a object that he can take possesion of... let him know that and if he doesn't change than move on.. jealousy can lead to other things such as abuse and that makes a relationship very unpleasant..
stop doing what he tells u to do.. ur a grown woman right? well even if u aren't tell him to get over it or ur leaving...
2006-09-08 05:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by Queen D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you think he is being to protective? may be it a control thing, that is something you need to check now, because it gets worst. This is something you need to search your heart for, think!! You need to be in control of yourself, no one has the right to tell you, where you can or can not go, unless of course you do not have a mind. Tell him let's be friends.
2006-09-08 06:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jelousy ?
what to say !? if he's jelouse ; it means he feels you , loves you , wants to protect you . But I know that too much jelousy , means paranoia !
Ok , tell him that ! ask him to be more cool ; and wait & see !!
2006-09-08 06:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by citizen high 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋