The 9 yr. old physically abuses and sexually molests his 7 yr. old brother. Neither my husband nor the children's mother seem to find this abnormal. I have pleaded with both to get the children counselling. My husband is afraid to confront his ex, due to she has money for legal battles and we don't. I have spoken with the older boy who says he does it because he's angry with his brother. Their mother says the behavior does not happen when they are at their house, only at mine/my husband's, and that the children are fine, although she has admitted in the past she's aware that the older one "wails" on his younger brother. There are other behaviors which cause me great concern (for instance, the younger one demonstrated to me how his mother cleans herself while showering with them; the older one asks questions about how his father and I sleep together!). I don't know what to do ... I want to help the boys desperately, and don't know where to turn.
2006-09-08 05:54:44 · 12 answers · asked by Concerned Step 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well first you have to think about the children,not his ex or any thing else.if it happens at you house I'm sure it happens at her house too the 9 year old had to had been sexually abuse either at dads or his mom ms and his mother shouldn't be taking any showers with her kids ether that's sexually abuse there .that's where the kid is getting his ideas at if nether one wants to admitted not the kids are the one that need the help you have to re pot this to the police
2006-09-08 06:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by longbeachex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful! This is your husbands problem, and getting into it can cause a big rift!
But you may be overly concerned; what is your definition of ' sexual abuse". Just what is the older boy doing to his brother?
While the boys should not be showering with their mother, it's not unusual, and not reportable. It's natural that they express some curiosity about how you 'sleep" with their dad; they can see that Their mom is made differently from them in th groin area, so something must go on, right? Be cautious, suggest their Dad talk to them about this, straightforwardly, but no more than they want to know.
2006-09-08 13:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this is a very messed up situation. Maybe you should call CPS or something like that and see what they say. This is not a normal situation and if you stand by and let this happen you are saying that it is okay. I hope you do the right thing and get some help, in the end does it matter if she has more money?, not if you want to do the best thing for these children (get them some help).
2006-09-08 12:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by blu_drgn25 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I feel really, really bad for you. I don't know if you can do anything about it, in regards to your rights. I know that one thing you absolutely can do is talk to a counselor on your own, and those people usually have resources. If you want to pursue this and your husband doesn't, you may put a big dent in your marriage. If this is really abuse, you've got to find some way to help these boys.
2006-09-08 13:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Child Protective Service, ask them if you can ask them questions and if they can give you advise as what to do? Or talk to the school, some one who you can trust, tell them no one must know it was you who told, usually I would say stay out of it, but not in this case, If no one steps in, these boys will need more help later.Try one more time and say to your husband these are your flesh and blood, you must protect them, this is not healthy,Do what is best for your boys.
2006-09-08 13:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey that woman is sick!
And you should try and do something or you'll stress your self out completely.
what if you have kids with your husband in the future or you going to allow this type of behavior around your child.
That mother is crazy and please try and help the kids they are innocent.
2006-09-08 13:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by coleman_debby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get child services involved immediately.
2006-09-08 12:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think your husband and his ex should be a little more concerned...crazy weirdo's...and why in the hell is she still taking showers with them - HELLO!!!! you need to get far far away from the sickos and call DHR on them!!!
2006-09-08 13:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter how much money she has, if that's going on, CALL
THE CHILD PERTECTIVE SERVICES, A.S.A.P. AND GET THOSE CHILDREN THE HELP THEY SO BADLY NEED.
FORGET WHAT UR HUSBAND SAYS, IF HE'S NOT WILLING TO DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT, THEN HE"S NOT A FATHER. YOU NEED TO BE THE ONE TO HELP THEM b/c NO ONE ELSE SEEMS TO WANT TO. CHILD PERTECTIVE SERVICE"S AND THE POLICE WILL HELP THEM. AND YOU DON"T HAVE TO GIVE UR NAME WHEN YOU CALL IF YOU DON"T WANT TO. SO PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE GET THOSE CHILDREN OUT OF THERE A.S.A.P. good luck.
2006-09-08 13:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by Fox29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a psychologist. if he still does it in a few years, call the police.
2006-09-08 12:57:35 · answer #10 · answered by dansimp93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋