I am 18 years old (Almost 32 weeks pregnant) with my first child. I am expecting a baby girl on Nov, 04. I just wanted to know if there is any teen moms who can give me some advice about newborns and what to expect. I have been reading A LOT of books and trying to get as much information as possibe but i think it would also help to speak to some experienced mothers. I am a little nervous about being a mom and i feel like it would help to talk to other people about it...If anyone has yahoo messenger please im me so we can talk =) I would really appreciate it.
2006-09-08 05:48:12 · 12 answers · asked by VaLeRieZ_MaMii 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I had my first baby at 19 (so i hope this counts)
always, always take any help you can get. if this means making your baby's father's mother your best friend, DO IT!
when the baby sleeps, you sleep. if anyone else has a problem with it, tell them to get over it.
try to build a schedule now. wake up at the exact time every day, eat at the same time, get a rocking chair and get the baby used to the rocking motions at times you want the baby to take a nap. when you do this, you can schedule when you can take shower, do laundry while the baby sleeps. and go to sleep at the same time every night. create a ritual. such as falling asleep to the same music every night.
the baby will not die from crying. don't panic if the baby wakes up while your in the shower, while eating or using the bathroom.
always leave the baby is a secure place such as a crib, never on a bed or changing table. EVER!
always use any secure fasteners on any type of baby carrier, swing or bouncy chair.
turn off your phones while you and the baby sleeps.
trust your instincts. if you feel the baby is too hot, take them to to doctor, if you see a change in temperment, take your baby to the doctor, if you see a change in poo poo, take your baby to the doctor. it's better to have the doctor roll his/her eyes at you and send you home, then to find out there was something you missed. (if a doctor treats you this way, you need to find a new doctor anyway)
get out of the house. take a walk around the block at least once a day.
before leaving the hospital, ask the nurses to show you how to swaddle the baby. and don't let them leave till they see you do it perfectly.
do not be concerned with your weight, you just created an entire human being from scratch!!! 9 months up, nine months down.
and last of all...relax...you are doing just fine!!
2006-09-08 06:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of a 6 and 1 year old daughters and just found out that I am expecting our third child. Being a mother is hard work, with or without the father taking part. Your whole world is turned upside down, but you don't realize and don't even mind it, because of the beautiful baby you are holding in your arms. Books tell you what someone thinks should do, the best help you can get, is the help your mother will give you. I know, if my mother hadn't had been there with my first born, I don't know what I would have done. Once you get down the correct way to hold, feed, bath, diaper, etc..., you will be just fine. Babies are a lot of work and they need a lot of attention, and have to always be put first for them to feel safe and secure. Once you get the basics down, everything else will come naturally.
Good luck sweetie and congrats and the bundle of joy from Heaven.
2006-09-08 12:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by sunflowerlizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
I'm 19 and 38 weeks pregnant with my second son. like you I read all the books on giving birth and things like that...being a mom will come easy to you if you want it. I would encourage to go ahead and read books about the toddler stage!! thats when the books really help out. My first son was fine,cute and quiet when he was an infant. he's now 17 months and I wish I had of read more of those books instead of labor ready books. of course I know your nervous, but its the greatest thing any girl or woman can experience, you'll do just fine :)
2006-09-08 13:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sierra B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was also a teenage mom. The one tip I received & wish I would have listened to: While in the hospital after having the baby, Get as much sleep as you can. They'll want to know If you want to feed the baby every time. It's O.K to say no. When you go home, You will be getting up everytime. & sleep becomes a distant memory for a while. Good Luck to you!!
2006-09-08 13:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 when i got pregnant with my 1st daughter. luckily i had my family to help me. if you have a good support system, the 1st weeks should be easy, after that things get a little rough with shots and teething. other than that a baby is GREAT!!!!!!! i now have 3 and am 26 yrs old, but i was a teen mom so i can relate.
2006-09-08 13:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by fatiima 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a baby when I was 17, almost 18 she was born in Dec. my 18th bday was in Jan. If you want to email me you can, Sorry I don't have the mess. tpjp007@hotmail.com....It's scary I know..especially if it's just you and your baby but it's interesting and there is alot you'll have to learn on your own. I read tons of books too, but the weird things you'll learn. Lots of stuff will come naturally, but if you have questions feel free!! I know what it's like!
2006-09-08 12:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well when they learn to crawl, you have to watch them CONSTANTLY! They'll get into anything they can find! It's hard being a mom--and I was one at thirteen. Then again at sixteen, and now I have four children, Jacob Anthony who is seven, Grace Noelle who is four, and Ryder Elizabeth and Hayden Angela who are about three weeks. I am twenty now! But once that baby is here, you won't want to trade it for anything else in the world.
2006-09-08 17:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is really great that you are trying to prepare yourself to be a mother I having one too and I'm thinking of names too and I read the name Kaelyn which is beautiful its rare too see my fiancee's last name is Rodriguez so it has to be a rare name the person that I go to is my mother to teach I also have been going to the library and I'm going to go to the classes with a nurse that's how my mother learn she was pregnant at 17 with me and after she married she moved to another state so she didn't have anybody to help her but they did I'm 25 and its going to be my first .Your baby is going to have a GREAT mother because you care what kind of mother your going to be GOOD LUCK
2006-09-09 16:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by nena24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i am a single mother of 1 expecting twins and I had my son when i was 19. You can feel free to IM or email me whenever you would like as well as anyone else about pregnancy or child bearing. My IM is baby_gurl_3778 or email baby_gurl_3778@yahoo.com
2006-09-08 12:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by baby_gurl_3778 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I'm not a teen...I too am becoming a first-time mommy! We are really excited & nervous. Not knowing what to expect is a bit nerve racking. Keep your head up & I'm here to talk if you'd like. Congrats & God Bless!
2006-09-08 12:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by Rob & Rach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋