we have 4 children and i've notice husband spending all of his time on the computer , he found new love on the internet . told me he wants a divorce. she lives in GA. . she will move to NY and he will live with her and make a new family. she has three kids of her own .he was very angry when i had the last one, now with her he will make a new baby, also she is 11 years than me .
2006-09-08 05:47:47 · 36 answers · asked by VETTEY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let the jerk go. You deserve better anyway. You will be fine the courts will take care of you and the jerk will have to pay child support. Take care of yourself and your kids, things will work our for you.
2006-09-08 05:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you can't keep him with you if he doesn't want to stay. If he was so angry when you had the last one, he should of thought of that while he was having so much fun making it. Let him go and when he finds out that she is really not what he wanted and wants to come back, tell him to go jump in the lake. Ask yourself this, why would a woman with three kids write to someone and strike up a relationship on the Internet if it wasn't to only support her and those three kids. She's looking for a sugar daddy and that's all. The fact that she is much younger than you could be his reason for the relationship. Maybe he is trying to see if he is still charming and irresistible to younger women, which will boost his ego. I say kick him to the curb and rebuild your life. You are still young and somewhere out there there is a man that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. That would be with respect which your husband doesn't give you and will love you for who you are. By the time your husband realizes he has made a terrible mistake and wants you to take him back you will be on the road to recovery. You will be happy and that you can throw back in his face. Good luck to you and your children. It may be rough in the beginning but in time you will all be better off without him.
2006-09-08 06:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry for your situation. Hang in there! Find a good lawyer and make your future ex pay for everything. Get child support. And alimony, if you can. Make a new life for you and your children. Give yourself some time to heal before dating again. Wait at least a year before getting serious with anyone. Give your children all the love you can and try not to say bad things to them about their dad. This will be very hard on you for a while, but you will be better off in the long run. Do not take him back under any circumstances! He will probably come crawling back to you after the new wears off of the relationship he's in now. The man is a complete jerk in my opinion. I hope this helps.
2006-09-08 06:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by organic gardener 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your situation. Splitting up from someone is never easy after that much time, especially when you have children. Even if he was mad when you had your last child, it takes two to tango, so he is at fault as well. The thing you will really need to focus on right now is maintaining a stable environment for your children at home. With him leaving, this is going to be a big upheaval in your home I'm sure and your children are going to feel abandoned just like you I am sure. Just try to be there for them and reassure them that they did nothing wrong. Try not to bad mouth your ex in front of them though, it's always better to be the bigger person. Unfortunately for your ex, he is probably ruining his relationship with his children, which is sad since kids need two parents. As far as the other woman is concerned, just remember that karma is bit** and if he could do this to a woman he was with for 14 years, he will most likely do it again. Just remember to have dignity and self-respect through this terrible situation, and to also get a really good lawyer. Good luck!!
2006-09-08 05:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by Nik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister just went through a similar type situation. The best advise I can give you is not to give up because over time you will heal and find hapiness again. It is hard to see that now but keep in mind that everyone goes through tough times and I'm sure that if you ask around you will find that practically everyone you know had been in a bad relationship that they moved on from. They will probably all have good advice for you if you are willing to listen. The main thing to remember is that you are not alone in this world. I am happy to report that my sister has regained herself and is now making her own way in this world after 26 years of being married. She smiles quite often! :))
2006-09-08 06:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by Davey Wavey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what I'd do. You need to get some therapy for you and the kids to help deal with this, but you need to move on a make a good life for yourself and the kids. He sounds like an idiot and a jerk. Don't be too quick to take him back when he realizes that Internet relationships aren't as exciting in reality as they are on the net. He needs to learn a lesson.
2006-09-08 05:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him out now. Get a good lawyer and go on the offensive immediately. My father left my mother, myself and my younger sister after 17 years of marriage and my mother was too sick to go on the offensive. My father controlled all the shots during the divorce for years causing more trouble than I can even begin to tell you about. It took several years to drag ourselfs back out from under while my father began his new life. We weren't surviving, we were simply existing. For the sake of you and your children, you need to take the fight to him and not wait for him to make the moves when he's ready and put you on the defensive. I can guarentee you that he has already started the process for when he "officially" leaves. You need to do the same.
2006-09-08 05:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by rahkokwee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
11 years older or younger then you not that it matters -I am sorry for what has happened in your life-I was married 15 years when my first husband had a long term affair(I was his first wife-or at least I I think so)-she was his third-and she died and now he is interested in her best friend whose husband also passed away) I married twice more-- the only thing I can say to you is take care of your children and get this cheater out of your life as soon as possible and see that you get child support!! Really it may not feel like it as this time but you will be better off in the long run to have him out of your life!!! Just take good care of your children and if it is possible and you can put some distance between yourself and your children -and him and her!!! HOPE THINGS GET BETTER FOR YOU!!
2006-09-08 06:08:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know what I'd do in that situation, but I know what I did when my wife of 7 years, and 3 kids found another guy at work and divorced me. I called her a lieling little slut who needs to get divorced then sleep w/ him, told her he was using her, walked out he door, and laughed in her face when he told her that he wasn't leaving his wife for her. I found humor in the irony, and now Im loving single life. You don't need him anyway if thats how he is going to be.
2006-09-08 05:53:54 · answer #9 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs a wake-up call. Sounds like a mid-life crisis to me. This new relationship that seems so perfect to him is not going to be so wonderful when he really starts spending time with the lady. But better that he realizes this NOW. Maybe you can talk to some of his friends and family and get them to hit him over the head with a brick? He is obviously very confused.
2006-09-08 05:53:19 · answer #10 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the divorce take him for all you can get. If a man can be that cold and calculating after 14 years of marriage he does not deserve his wife and kids. Make him pay money is second only to sex in a man's life.
2006-09-08 05:51:06 · answer #11 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋