I have a pretty face, clean, smart, but carry a little extra in the middle.. Not a big behind, not big hips, and I carry my weight well. I am diabetic and do know that lots of diabetics are built this way. How can I find a nice man who thinks Im pretty if I dont always feel that I am? I think a lot has to do with the fact that I never had a boy friend til I was 21.. Any one with similar experiences?
2006-09-08 05:37:16 · 12 answers · asked by shelley821291 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
I'm a big girl and I'm married and I have kids and I still get hit on. I weigh 250. I think its about personality. I might not be able to get everyman I see because of my weight, but I'm a very approachable person and am easy to talk to. Maybe you should try to open up more.
2006-09-08 06:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by Prissy_kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that the sexier you see yourself, the sexier others will see you. Please don't feel that you are not attractive just because you have a few extra pounds. There are plenty of women who carry a little extra weight and are beautiful. Kirstie Alley, for one.
I think it's all about confidence. A confident woman is always perceived as more beautiful. When we lack confidence, it is always perceived as shy or even stuck up because we are afraid to speak to people. I'm sure that there is someone out there that has his eye on you and just doesn't know how to approach it.
Get involved in things. The more things you are involved in, the more people you meet. Plus it gets you out there doing something instead of staying at home. It's better to look forward to the next charity event than to the next season on TV...
A nice smart man would be a fool to pass a pretty, smart woman, but he has to know that she is out there.
I wish you the best of luck, beautiful.
2006-09-08 12:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by makawao_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my case Im a big girl, and well I wasn't looking for anyone, and well now I got my bf... he lives in NY and Im going to see him soon, for whatever reason he loves me doesn't matter what, he says that I'm his diva even when I'm huge. I think when the right time comes, he will appear. dont look too much, enjoy every single moment of your life, and only if you feel like it and want to do it for yourself, lose some weight, but never do it for anyone... only just for you. I haven't lose anything I know I should I can be diabetic, or have other health conditions like my knees or something else.
I want to lose weight, may be soon I will start. If you need support let me know.
Anyway once again: you personality is everything, never forget that.
2006-09-08 12:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Papayita :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step in getting someone to like you is to learn to like yourself. With so many overweight people in the country, the beauty norm is changing. Just check out the black girls. They don't have the same issues with a few extra pounds and most people don't look at them as fat. (sounds horribly racist doesn't it) The point is that if you feel hot and forget about trying to hide what you are, you will be more attractive. That absolutely does not mean that you should act like a slut or dress like a skinny waif. Just be yourself and follow the old axiom. "If you want to be interesting..be interested"
2006-09-08 17:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by united9198 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tip: Dress-Up make the outside feel like u do in the
inside, let your personitlity shine thru...men like
women with great sense of humors...So don't put
to much on what u look like (neg) play up the (pos).
This way u will carry yourself better, people love
positive people.
Answer question: You don't have to be heavy to have men
problems, I'm still looking for mister wright...
I hope this helps alittle.....
2006-09-08 13:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by Nanniekc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to have self respect. If you respect your self it will show. Some times you can meet a man that likes you for you the inner beauty instead of outer beauty. Men are statring to like women with more meat on their bones then the skeleton type women that starve themselves to try and look good.Good luck they are out there.
2006-09-08 12:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, I feel ya! I'm also diabetic and I don't have the "to die for figure" but I manage my diet well and I try to excersize regularly. its hard, but you gotta do what you gotta do. try not to focus so much on getting a boyfriend right now. focus on you, do things to make you feel good about yourself, build up your self-esteem, say to yourself that you are beautiful and you will not just settle for anything or anybody. because feeling like you do right now, you could end up with a wacko! who will not only make you feel unworthy but may help lower your self-esteem. mr right will come along when you least expect it. he will love you and respect you for who you are. you seem to be a good person and good things come to those who wait. I'm married to a wonderful guy who accepted me for what I was....diabetic, large and proud! good luck and keep your chin up!
2006-09-08 13:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by peg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a man writing back.
There are PLENTY of chunky women out there who have found good boyfriends and husbands.
Hold yourself up proud and don't try hard. He'll come along soon.
Cheers!
2006-09-08 13:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
donot werry there is someone thats look to the inside. i know a lady who is around 300 lbs. she is very nice and friendly to all;but with me she said i never say sweei saings to her. i neverdid it before even my wife who dieded four years ago. she thinks that i treat her to sexy; so donot worry for there is some one out there for you .good kuck harley.
2006-09-08 12:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by harley44134@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you cant find a man who loves you for who you are then it is their fault dont worry when you least expect it the man of your dreams will show up it good luck god bless
2006-09-08 12:45:37 · answer #10 · answered by nevaeh_noellie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋