me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half.and i just recently moved to oklahoma from minnesota with him and his family.but for 7 months or so i have just had a wierd feeling.i feel like my boyfriend doesnt really want to be with me.like he misses his ex.you see,almost every nite i hear him say his name in his sleep.so i asked him if he still has feelings for her and he said no.but then the same night i asked him that i found out that he called her while i was at work.he talked to her for an hour and then when i saw her number on the phone he tried to lie and say he didnt call her.the only thing is that she is pregnant now with her current boyfriends baby.i think he still loves her and now he feels he cant be with her cause she is pregnant,do you think he still loves her?should i stay and feel like this or should i leave and let him go for her?or am i just crazy and being paranoid?but isnt it wierd that rite after i ask about his feelings for her he calls her?HELP ME
2006-09-08 05:35:44 · 8 answers · asked by jenny p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
forget him. no justice to live with him.
2006-09-08 05:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really, the only way to deal with this situation is with openness and honesty. If you can, put your feelings (fears, etc.) aside and let him be open, regardless of the outcome. It may seem like it would be "the end of the world" to find out whatever the truth is, but trust me, you'll be able to deal with it once you know. You may find out that he does miss her and still have some feelings for her, but that doesn't mean he doesn't really want to be with you. If he does really want to be with her but can't because she's with someone else now, then what can you do accept give him love, comfort and understanding--be there for him as a loving friend first. It'll work itself out. Hang in there.
2006-09-08 05:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he calls her up once or week or so,Its ok. She is pregnant and he being her ex will have some soft corner towards her in that state.
I think you just need to calm down a bit,and stop suspecting your husband..Perhaps he called her up when your at work to avoid such problems in the first place.
I feel that he loves you and he just being sympathetic to his ex.
In situations like this dont make decisions in haste.
God bless you ,all the best.
2006-09-08 05:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ew yuck, that's just wrong you totally sacraficed moving and all and now he's pretty much emotionally cheating on you with this girl. I'd move the hell out of there, you don't need to deal with that and on top of it, his family. You're too good for that. You will find the right person, it may not feel like it but you will, just get yourself out of that situation because I'd say, yes, he does still have feelings for her. Move out and don't be nice about it either. He's totally screwing you over.
2006-09-08 05:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know in your heart how you are being treated. If he was still interested in his ex, he wouldn't have moved away with you. Don't dwell on it and have more confidence in yourself. (Remember there are reasons for everything.) If things don't work out there might be something better down the road for you. Good Luck.
2006-09-08 05:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by Pat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not good...........if he is calling her, then he feels some reason to keep in touch with her. Im wondering if that baby is really her boyfriends or your mans. Saying her name in his sleep is not cool either.......he has her on his mind so much hes dreaming about her.
I think it might be okay to move on........you dont want to be second best do you ?
2006-09-08 05:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by honeyinthelexus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are not crazy, it sounds like he likes the attention that his ex is giving him, it makes him feel needed when they talk. I would stay with him if you love and trust him. Without those two things your relationship is doomed. Hang in there, fight for your man, girl.
2006-09-08 05:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by n3rdluvr2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is carrying to much luggage drop him or your gonna get hurt later
2006-09-08 05:41:46 · answer #8 · answered by credz427 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋