I have had friend of ten years both of us are heavy in to Word of God yet still the relationship has died I really do not want to give up just yet because we have been friends 10yrs but I feel like it will never be the same and I do not know what to do. Am I just to move on in life like those 10yrs never happened if so what is the point of growing with somebody that long to lose it and how do you deal with that in a way that is healthy and Godly?
2006-09-08 05:30:17 · 13 answers · asked by yamimalikevil 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok everyone here has given you thier stories, so I guess mine is in order to.
A while ago my best freind, who happened to be a girl (really that is all she was was a best freind), became distant and far away. After a couple of weeks I asked her why and did I do something wrong. She said no I hadn't that she had a boyfreind now and she really didn't need me. She told me her boyfreind was her whole life and she needed to stop our freindship. She was ever so glad I mentioned it first as she didn't want to hurt my feelings. So we parted company.
I wasn't hurt, but I was very angry. I thought we were close enough (Brother and sister close enough) that she would have told me that there was someone in her life that made her happy. She did not she hid it and then she drops the lI don;t want to be freinds with you anymore scene on me.
18 months later on a saturday I was sitting in the living room of my house and there was a knock on the door. And there was my freind standing there crying very hard and I will give you three guesses why she was crying.
She had gotten pregnant and her boy friend when her heard that dumped her and ran away. She expected me to come to her aid and had she stayed with me as a freind I would of.
It was very hard for me to do this but I said "No I don't think so. One of the most important aspects in any relationship, whether freindship or love, is trust. When you came upon a boyfriend you tossed me aside like yesterdays garbage and now that he did the same thing to you, you expect me to resume our freindship. I'm sorry but I can't do that because I don't trust you anymore."
Ask your self this question, Do you trust your best freind? And think that if you have to ask yourself this question than the answer is no you do not. Knowing the answer to the question I would suggest that you back away from the relationship. If your freind is not there to be with you when you need them they never where a friend to begin with.
2006-09-08 06:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by mikeae 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Me and my bestest friend have been friends for over 14 years. We know eachother in and out. Yet sometimes there will be months that go by where we dont see eachother and our only form of communication has been email. We dont live that far apart from eachother, but ever since gas prices went up so much we dont see eachother as much. But its ok. Its ok and completely natural for relationships to become more mature with age. We dont NEED to see eachother all the time to know we still care alot about eachother and would be there instantly if the other needed us. Hope this helps. Good luck
2006-09-08 05:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you don't give up i wet though the same thing and tell you this if you too went though thik and thin with him or her then no don't give up on your friendship i did that for ten years and then we all talked and tell you this we sure wasted alot of time apart for nothing see we both found love and thought the men didn;t like us been friends and driffed apart and that was not the case at all just try to find out what is really goin on in the matter comunicasion is the key to a good firendship ok just hang in there and you wount be disapionted ok
2006-09-08 05:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by crazyberta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel man,I had a friend for more than 12 yrs who changed his attitude all of the sudden which I didnt like , He used to call me and started to even spy on me to see if I had got some new friends,Even though my Friendship was true to him from day one ,I realized that I didnt mean much to him ,So I just said Bye and told him its over. The strange thing is I felt a little burden off my heart that day.
Remember it takes both of you to make friendship work.
2006-09-08 05:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first, I don't understand why you need to equate your friendship with your devotion fo your God; that just doesn't seem to be relevant. Your friendship may have had its origins in your focus on religion as common ground. Regardless, your friendship should be treated as a separate issue.
With that said, people change, people go through stages, friendships wax and wane, friendships get stronger and friendships die. Just remain open to your friend showing renewed interest in the future and in the meantime move on to additional friendships.
2006-09-08 05:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is fact of life...close friends can grow apart due to different life circumstances. if u feel the relationship is simply going downhill...wat's the point of holding on?
i know this is cruel. jus move on....probably after some period of time, both of you will come back together again? who knows? or simply take this as a chance to meet and make new friends, who will direct you to an entirely different path (for better or worse) that you have never imagine?
2006-09-08 05:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by phy19050 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient with that person. Maybe that person has somethings going on in his or her life right now and they just need some space for now. You still have God. Don't worry about it. I have little too no friends and you have to give friends some space sometimes. That's life. Just live yours.:) and maybe you will connect with your friend some other time.
2006-09-08 05:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by Starlesha23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude my best friend got a new boyfriend and she stopped hanging with me, I stayed on the scene and called and everything, now that he's dumped her she has said sorry, everything is as good as ever. All I can say is don't follow thm but don't leave the door closed.
2006-09-08 09:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by lost_boy25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to dance. If your friend doesn't want to participate in the relationship, you need to move on. Don't do anything drastic to end the connection. Just continue with your life. If they come back to you, great. If not, it was not meant to be.
2006-09-08 05:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my best friend did have to take time away from each other for several years. We found each other online in the last 8 years, and things have grown closer again.
2006-09-08 05:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by colleend01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋