life ,love, chils, house, cottage, bikes,boats,sport cars etc..........out in the restaurants, travel etc........I gave respect, honesty, compassion. What I dont get is why would a woman want to **** up a life like this to have an affair with a bad boy... Ladies please try and explain this to me. I dont get it and 1----I never abused her 2-treated her like a queen WHY WHY WHY
and now shes always depressed because she screwed up big time
BUT WHY
2006-09-08 05:21:24 · 15 answers · asked by Funny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
have you gone for couseling? sounds like lots of issues...
giving her everything money can buy doesnt make it love...
2006-09-08 05:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by smiths j 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she was craving something in her life that you could not give her. All those things are nice to have but they are only material things. Maybe she was bored with her life style and needed a little excitement. You say she is always depressed now because she screwed up big time. Are you two still together? People do stupid things for different reasons and lots of time can't give an answer for their actions. No one can answer why she acted this way and maybe she doesn't know why. If you love her and want to try to find out the truth behind her behavior, you are going to have to be patient with her while she finds out what she wants out of her life. Not to downplay her actions, it will take you a long time to trust the woman you love if you ever can again. You two need to find out together what each one wants out of life and learn from this mistake, whether you stay together or not. Good luck to you. I hope you find happiness.
2006-09-08 12:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this same problem. I have been with a good man for some years now. He does the same for me. Treats me wonderful. But before i was with him, i was always with badd boys. And theres so much excitement in a new relationship, and with a badd boy, theres alot of challenge too. Especially when she is still carring on another relationship with you. For me its all about the challenge and seeing if i can do it. She realizes now that she made a mistake. That man doesnt love her, and she sees this now. Before she didnt care, because she still had u there with no problems. U as a man need to stand your ground. Dont let her come running back... she will not lean anything from this. Women that do this sort of thing (me too) are usually spoiled the way it is. If you continue to treat her like a queen she will still have the same spoiled queen attitude. Make her feel horrible. HORRIBLE for what she did to you. She will learn to appreciate you. And if she doesnt. Fu*k her. U deserve better. A woman who will love and appreciate you for who you are, and what u do. Good luck. I hope this helped a little.
2006-09-08 12:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by misskaykai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime people just go wrong. There can come a point when you don't notice what you have and think there's a way of getting more.
I'm sorry for what you've gone through, and I'm not condoneing what she did at all, but maybe she seriously just did not realise how incredibly lucky she was.
I'm sorry there's no easy explination to give, the only thing I can really suggest is trying to talk to her and trying to figure out what she thought she'd be getting that she didn't think she could get from you.
2006-09-08 12:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by Frankie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is such a tough situation because I have a husband who does incredibly nice things for me but I sometimes feel like something is missing. What really lets me know that he loves me and makes me feel secure isn't the things that he buys me or provides for me but the time that he spends doing what I want to be doing. Sacraficing a little bit to make me happy and in return I support him and do the things that he wants to be doing. People react differently to different types of affection. Some need more quality time, some need to hear or read loving words, some need acts of service or things. Sounds to me like she didn't need the things but maybe needed time and loving words. There is a great book you can read called "The Five Love Languages" and it will actually let you know what your love language is and what your partners is so that you can have a more fulfilling relationship.
2006-09-08 12:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by hideemosquito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your wife have all these things before she married you? If she never experienced a wonderful life like this before, she may have difficulty believing or accepting that she deserves these things. Sometimes, people have childhoods that are so messed up that they truly do not believe that they deserve to have love and happiness come to them. Maybe she is so damn scared of screwing things up that she actually did screw it up. Sometimes, having some certainty - even if it's bad - can be perceived as being better than worrying all the time if you will screw things up.
2006-09-08 12:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Human beings sometimes just screw up. She thought she had something she was missing with the bad boy, so she tried it, but it didn't make her happy. In honesty, she's missing something inside herself that you can't give to her, but you can help her find. Have marriage and single counseling, really talk to each other, find what you are missing, and forgive her if you can find it in your heart or you two will never be right together again. Good luck and blessings.
2006-09-08 12:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
material possessions don't constitute happiness.
Maybe there was lack of communication, maybe the relationship itself was on the rocks. Don't think that having a nice house fixes this. maybe you THOUGHT you treated her right, but did you ever truly TALK? Did you really know what she wanted or needed? Marriage counseling can help fix this if you are both willing to try.
2006-09-08 12:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by KB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jeez guy....bummer. I'd ask her why - she's the one that f_cked around on you. Whatever you do don't let her turn things around to the point where she tries to make you feel like you were responsible for her infidelity. You both need counseling.
2006-09-08 12:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to give you a bunch of mumbo jumbo, I am going to give it to you straight........there are some women that are selfish W***** that will never be satisfied, that is why they mess up a good thing.......you are better off without her. Find someone who appreciates what you do for them........good luck
2006-09-08 19:09:42 · answer #10 · answered by dixiegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey she knows that soon and i hooe soon you will take it all from her and she will be left with nothing so now she wlaks around looking dumb all because she couldnt keep her leggs closed and she wants you to feel sorry for her but you shouldnt and dont she messed up not you she is taking you for granted and your letting her
2006-09-08 12:50:03 · answer #11 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋