2006-09-08 05:14:43 · 21 answers · asked by senorita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all talk with the family members that don't accept him. Have a frank open discussion and do not have him there with you and if your family is one that will talk over each other, than speak to them separately. Explain how you feel and tell them that you would like them to explain their view and LISTEN to them. They may see something you don't. Is there something in his past that is bothering them yet you are still in the honeymoon stage of love and refuse to see him for who he is, warts and all?
If it is a religious thing or something like he is of a different race then you need to do some serious thinking. How serious are you about this guy. If it is a new relationship, accept the fact that you have a lot to find out about him and yourself and how long the relationship may be. You need to then decide if you'll lose your family over this and you must decide if that is worth this guy and your relationship with him.
Good luck. You're in a tough position.
2006-09-08 05:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Decision time, whats most important to you - you family or your love? You can always stay with love and hope the family will eventually change their minds but this might be a long shot at best. Without any particular details, like why your family is so against this person, its hard to provide a good answer. Is the person a criminal? The basis for your family's resistance is a big part of this equation and more details are need to make an intelligent decision.
2006-09-08 12:20:34 · answer #2 · answered by jack w 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by your family "refuse" him? It's not up to them. On the other hand, if they have valid complaints against him (he's mean, etc.) then you should listen.
Why don't you just leave your family out of it and ask your friends? Are you really mature enough to be in a relationship if the opinion of your family matters that much to you?
2006-09-08 12:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by mollyneville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they either except him in the family or you refuse to go visit them. Sometimes family members see things that the person who is in love with the other person don't see. You need to ask them why they refuse to let him in the family. If he is abusive I would not want him in my family whatsoever. If it is just because they think he wears his pants to tight then I would refuse to go over without him being excepted.
2006-09-08 12:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your family to see what their reasons are for refusing him. Love is blind so maybe they see things you don’t. If they refuse him because they don’t know him and are speculating, bring him around more so they can get to know them. Maybe they’ll change their mind. But overall, if your family and friends all say he is not right for you, I would listen, because 98 percent of the time it is true!
2006-09-08 15:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends.. one how old are u.. if ur a minor still.. they can keep u away from him.. if ur an adult, then they arent the ones that love him and if u feel hes the right one for you, then u need to make the choice of who is more important, him or your family.. if u marry him.. then he becomes YOUR FAMILY...so u have to decide for yourself if ur going to stand by ur man, or stand by ur family.. only u can live your life, good or bad, mistake or not.. u have to choose what u think is best and live with the decisions u make..
2006-09-08 12:22:37 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. They feel the way they do for whatever reasons, but if you love him, there's nothing they can do to change that either. Your family usually knows when something isn't right about people you choose to date...look at the whole picture, is he really right for you? OR, are they just being judgemental???
By all means, if you're happy, love him with all your heart!
2006-09-08 12:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be with who you love unless your family refuses him for a good reason (if he beats you or constantly cheats on you).
2006-09-08 12:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by GreenEyedSista 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore your family and live your life. My family wouldn't accept my b/f now they do after about a year. I think they know now that he isn't going anywhere. Family can be such a pain. Good luck!
2006-09-08 12:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love this person then you shouldn't worry about what your family thinks. In the end it's all about your happiness.
2006-09-08 12:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋