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Question

ok this what going on and i dont know what i should do u see my hole family is falling apart and i cant do anything.

u see it all started when my nan died last month and my mother got so upset and all the time she was fighting with my older bro and also my older sister and they now dont talk to her and she dont talk to them but now i wanna see my bro & sister but mother say's they dont wanna know us but that a lie as i know they wanna see me because i talk to them on the phone all the time, but see they live in perth and mother siad i cant see them due to there fight! can u give me some help as i dont know what to do? i have not seen them for 1 month that is such a long time! should i go or not?

my mother and them will neva talk again if only u new what this was all about u see it is not just coz of my nan it is also coz of other things which happend in the past it is to do with our dads

Answer 1

Of course you should go!!You say you talk to your brother/sister,and you get along fine on the telephone-what is your problem then-your age to travel?your mums wish that you do not see them again and she will not let you?If you are of an age where you are allowed to travel on your own,presumably you are a working person then,or have monetary means-so go your own way,make your own choices,do what YOU want to do-without stepping on peoples toe's in the process-try to keep bro/sis separate from mum in your own mind...it is ok to stay in the middle sometimes-just be adamant to all concerned you will not to take sides.BEST OF:-)

Answer 2

First:
I'm really sorry to hear about your Dad, that must be really tough for all of you.

When a family feels this amount of stress it's only natural that everyone feels a certain amount of anxiety and anger because of it. In this case I would guess that there's more anxiety then anger as a severe loss will cause anxiety.

If you want to see your sis and bro then I say go for it. Your mom may not agree but she can't stop you from going. But it sounds like your mom may need some help. Sounds like all of you do. Try and seek some counseling of you can, or join a group that shares the same trauma.

I wish you all the best!

Answer 3

why dont you arrange a meeting with them all. Sit down and talk out your problems. Dont let your mother break you away from your older brother and sister. You may also suggest your mom goes and talks to someone about these issues and perhaps she will open up and then start communicating with your bro and sister again.

Answer 4

Look girl whatever the problem your brother and sister had with your mom that shouldn't keep you from seeing them i think they need to talk and get this problem solve before it gets worse. They are your brothers and they are her sons so nothing nothing is going to chance that your mom needs to realize she is hurting you buy doing these talk to your mom and tell her everything you feel. I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 5

you should really sit down and talk with your mother and family and work things out...that's the best solution or else you mother will think that this behavior is acceptable which it is not if it is clearly upsetting you..good luck

Answer 6

i think you should go. tell your mom to face the facts and act as a big woman. those are her kids, she carried in her for nine months, what could have possibly gone wrong that it cannot be fixed. don't let your mom keep you from seeing your siblings they are your family. tell your mom to deal with it.

Answer 7

life is like a river, it moves and moves so as to reach sea. family life is also like that. keep going and finally you get satisfied. don't worry leave it time.

Answer 8

When next you speak on the phone with them, ask them how you can see them. That's all.

Answer 9

By all means go,no reason why you can't see your family cause she's mad at them.

Answer 10

Go, time heals all wounds. Give your mom time.