I can honestly say I'm tired of counselor swtching: I've had 7 counsellors in the last 3 years. I am serious, I have to start from the beginning again. You know that feeling when ur a new kid in town or in class and ur soe nervous about meeting new kids? That's how I feel.
The one I have now, I seem to trust her somewhat and I've been with her for over a year now. I talk about myself...just not really about my personal problems as much. What i do learned in social worker that the last thing the client talks about are her problems. That's the level where I'm at. She took a while to get to know me and my academic concerns...and asked me a few questions about my personal life and relationships...and yes, i don't mind talking about other people....but she says that there's still more that I'm not willing to talk about.....
I want to but I can't. She knows I feel depressed sometimes but she doesn't know i have suicidal thoughts......
2006-09-08 05:10:02 · 6 answers · asked by Angel_Kitten 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i haven't really actualy lied to her about my feelings, i just held back the suicidal stuff
2006-09-08 05:45:58 · update #1
how can she help if you arent honest about your suicidal thoughts? If you cant tell her that.... find someone that you can be open and honest to so that they can really help you. Good luck
2006-09-08 05:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lying is a habit, and like all habits it needs to be replaced gradually with a healthier habit. If you come from an alcoholic or otherwise dysfunctional family, you learn early on that it isn't safe or permissible to tell people what's really going on at home. The tragedy of parental alcoholism is that we carry these behaviours into adulthood and they wreak havoc for us until we identify and correct them.
Beating up on yourself from a moral standpoint is not effective in correcting compulsive lying. Aim for progress, rather than perfection. Say to yourself, "I will try to stop and think today before just popping out with some B.S. automatically." The more truth you tell in small matters, the easier it becomes. Try telling people how you really feel, rather than responding with the automatic "fine."
Another thing that helps is working a spiritual program - there are many out there.
I think humans function best when they are truthful with themselves first and also with others. Good luck, and please post again so we can chart your progress.
2006-09-08 05:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by Melinda C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not easier to lie. We have a choice to tell the truth or to tell a lie. Maybe you are worried about what the counselor will think about you. If you need help you should really be open and honest about your feelings. You have to help yourself before anyone else can help. I will pray for you.
2006-09-08 05:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her approximately your suicidal innovations. i comprehend somebody who consistently tried to grin and act like issues have been ok even whilst they weren't, she only have been given her antidepressants upped and upped, and that messed her up whilst she have been given in a extreme lively temper and the relatives relatively depressed her sooner or later and pushed her out for paying for like that. She took it so stressful she went abode and commenced a suicide attempt. fortuitously she had a brilliant sufficient innovations to realize she became no longer questioning with the properly suited outlook and the med became in area to blame, yet she in no way could are growing to be that greater little bit of drugs had she been honest interior the 1st place. Had she instructed the scientific expert proper from the initiating what became occurring in her innovations/heart/social circumstances/and so on., she could have been helped plenty, plenty greater desirable and the relatives does not have that black mark against her. Nor could destiny medical doctors. Nor could she. it extremely is greater desirable to be honest, inspite of a bothered, counselor-switching previous, given which you will experience good interior from what comes of it, and from no longer having to cover something. How do i comprehend? I do only. You sound slightly blended up proper now, so i think of you may consult from the counselor now in case you may. call them up and tell them what's occurring interior your innovations.
2017-01-05 06:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And she won't know until you tell her,if you really want to help yourself your going to have to admit it to yourself and then to her.The only thing stopping you from being or getting better is you.Take the first step,you can do it.Good luck.
2006-09-08 05:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lie is more difficult than telling truth. truth ends once only by telling truth. where as lie, more lies have to be said to keep it as lie.
2006-09-08 05:15:06 · answer #6 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋