I've been seeing this guy for the past two months I really like him we talk on the phone all the time we go out we do everything a couple would do the only thing is he's married and has children but he is not happy am I wrong for dating him?
2006-09-08 04:59:49 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes. He's married. He promised to be with that woman forsaking all other until death them do part. He has also consummated the relationship, becoming thereby one flesh with her (physically and not only). The fact that he is dating you means he is not a man of integrity. Indeed, he is someone to keep a huge distance from. I mean, do you want to aid and abet someone in dishonest behavior?
Better that he learn that happiness comes from loving because one chooses to love, regardless of the circumstances. Ask my dad - he's not even religious, but his idea of simply being grateful for what he has, has served him well for over 35 years. He's still in love with his wife, despite everything.
And better that you find someone who will give you the love, respect and faithfulness which is your right as a precious creature made in God's image. Someone who will really put you first, make a responsible, permanent, exclusive commitment to you. Become one with you. Choose to focus himself on doing what needs to be done to make a good and lasting relationship. And of course, better that you do the same for him, when you find him :>
'Nuff said. May God bless you
2006-09-08 05:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong. Do you really want to have a life with this man, knowing that you are a homewrecker? Also, how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? Life is so hard for women as it is. Why would you want to disrespect another woman and her family like this?
Also, I would be concerned about dating a man who is already cheating on his wife. It has been my experience that most men who do cheat are serial cheaters. Do you really want to end up with a man that has already cheated on one wife? Or not even think about what impact his actions will have on his children? If he is serious about his feelings for you, then he will separate from his wife first. I think if he truly cares for you, he would ask you to wait until things are resolved with his wife. If he loves you, he would not make you into a homewrecker.
2006-09-08 05:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put yourself in his wife's position. There's always someone better coming along. Give yourself more choices and consider spending more time with some great single men. Having a relationship with a married man is tough for both parties. All the best.
2006-09-08 05:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by Laetishaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong because a married man will tell u any & everything to get sum a** on the side.
Let this go before it becomes a bigger problem. If he is seeing his wife and trying to get you on the side believe me there will be someone else also.
2006-09-08 05:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are interfering in a family matter possibly taking those childrens father away from them, if he is not happy then he needs to get the divorce because it is what he feels he needs to do,, not because you want it or because his family finds out and kicks him out... then he will resent you and so will the other family members.... you will be the blame, let him make the stand on his own.... because he is not happy!
Not to mention he has no right to put you in that position.
2006-09-08 05:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by Bugs_Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you're wrong. he's wrong too. make him sort out this 'not happy' thing with his family first. people have a right to try to be happy, sure, but he's got to take some responsibility for his own family!
remember you're probably on the losing end of this. he's getting the best of both worlds. sorry honey.
2006-09-08 05:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by runtotheangels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are very wrong for dating him. Any man with a ring on his finger is not for you to touch. He has the best of both worlds and you are lettrig him get away with it. He has a wife and family. Maybe he is unhappy, but cheating on his wife is not a way to fix that. He should be a man and fix it with his wife or divorce her. Now you are letting him get away with his responsibilities. It isnt fair to his family and it isnt fair for you to have to be the other woman. Do you have such low self-worth that you have to be the other chick? are there not any other men you can dig on? single men?
I come from a veiw of I would never do it to another chick because I would never want it done to me.... not cool.
2006-09-08 05:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were his wife and he was dating someone else you would find it wrong wouldn't you? Do onto others....and by the way no married man will ever say they are happily married when they have a willing gullible woman nearby.
2006-09-08 05:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is wrong. HE is only using you any Way to make himself feel better. he is not going to leave his wife for you and if he did he would eventually cheat on you. If he is not happy he should find out why and try to fix it or divorce and get it over with. he i just giving you a story so you will continue to sleep with him.
2006-09-08 05:07:01 · answer #9 · answered by Tia Dalma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. You have brought bad carma onto yourself. What goes around ALWAYS comes around. Whom ever you marry or stay with in life, whether it is him or another, that one WILL cheat on you eventually. Because you are doing it and know it's wrong is why it will happen to you. Do onto others...would you like it if some woman was messing with your husband?
2006-09-08 05:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋