I used to do stand-up comedy where most of my material was about being a husband and father and how I felt I was treated unfairly. After every show I would get a ton of guys coming up and telling me they feel the same way.
Since this is such a topic for me, I tend to steer conversations this way when I talk with other men and find that a lot of men have feelings that they are much more willing to talk to men about then they are with their wives. I think there could be a lot of good done if I could figure out a way to get these messages to women. I have thought of writing a book, but will anybody publish a book that isn't authored by a Phd? Would you read a book about relationships not written by a Phd?
2006-09-08 04:56:31 · 16 answers · asked by butnozzle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I possibly would read it but would you get it through the publishers ? I don't know what the chances of this are ?
To start you could certainly write a blog or website very easily.
I agree with you, some women can get very superior about their knowledge of relationships, feelings, too easily writing off mens inferior knowledge, sometimes in some sort of power game thing.
While generally women do know much more, they should give their men some credit, many people have a wealth of experience.
Women tend to know more as its the result of where your focus is, and women more naturally focus on this area.
Relationships and emotional intelligence are however becoming very hot subjects and in a world where we can have most basic things we want (including dishwasher and power showers) basic needs are being left behind for higher needs such as an even greater need to relate. We have the money to spend on products that help us do it and it's not taboo to find out information about this in a world where divorce is very common.
In fact I would guess that relationships is a huge growth market !!!
Given this combined with the explosion in information, I would guess that things will even out as experience handed down through generations of females will become more widely available to the male species, esp through to resources like answers.
So my answer is go for writing content, could be a book but there are plenty other ways to get your content out there, seminars, courses, workbooks, internet etc. It looks as if there is a growth market take advantage of it.
And women don't rest on your laurels, men are catching up and getting more knowledgable in this area.
2006-09-08 05:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would read it, probably several times. I want so badly to think that there's more to men than just sex, sports, and work. Men seem so stupid and mean to me and I don't like feeling this way. I hate when my husband says "I don't feel good" and then I have to play 20 questions with him to try to figure out what the hell is wrong with him. Why can't he be more descriptive? I need details. I love him, he's a great person, but his communication skills suck big time. We have misunderstandings all the time. He gets mad at me for asking questions when I'm just trying to understand what he's talking about.
I've read "Men are Mars, Women are from Venus" a few times several years ago, and it helped some but I'm still left feeling a little unfulfilled in the communication department where my husband is concerned and it's very difficult at times.
Please write your book. I'm sure your insight will help many (may even make you famous).
2006-09-08 12:20:43 · answer #2 · answered by Nobody Special 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are studies that confirm that!
Years ago I read that guys suffer much more than women from split ups and divorces. Looking at my exes, that is definitely born out.
Reading a book about something I am interested in would NOT be determined by whether it was a PhD (Piled higher and Deeper) or not. But I also wouldn't buy a book where I already have enough info to have made a solid conclusion.
2006-09-08 12:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely I would read it!
Marriage is all about humor and as the mom of 2 boys (3 if ya count my husband - insert rim shot here) and I agree that men have very deep feelings they're not comfortable sharing with us. Luckily, I learned that taking my guys out on a long car ride where they didn't have to make eye contact would get them talking like crazy :)
You might take a look at this website for an example of an amazing humor writer who's now writing relationship books.
http://www.wbrucecameron.com/
Bruce Cameron was in an online humor writers group I was in. He wrote a funny little piece for his online column many, many years ago. One day, he got it back as a mail fwd... his name was gone from it but it kept making it's way onto other people's humor sites and mail forwards. The column was a list called 8 Simple Rules for Dating my Teenage Daughter. He turned it into a book....
2006-09-08 12:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a sensitive man, and obviously you are, then people will see that in you. Just keep telling people how you feel. I would read a book such as you would write. No matter who wrote it.
I know a few men that have feelings and show them, but a lot of
men need to stop trying to be "Men" they already are!! They just
need to be themselves.
2006-09-08 12:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you just did to the people that read your question. I would read your book. My husband has a hell of a lot of feeling about all kinds of stuff. In your book write about how women can comfort their men when they do get upset especially when it's about something we really don't know much about.
2006-09-08 12:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by babe112083 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure we would,there aren't many books out that tells our side of the story and who better to write it than someone who's living it,not some PhD.
2006-09-08 12:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think you are right about that i have found that out too men do have thoughs feeling some feel alone and some have thier kids single,out of a bad relationshipsome get cheeted on some are justed lookin for nice deasted friendship thats all i can say for now but i think you justed did it take out that message guys do care and have feelings.
2006-09-08 12:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by crazyberta 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probalby not, unless I head it was really good!!!!
I like you think, men do have feelings just like women!! Men simply don't express it the same way, because they are men and we are women!!! We are suppost to be different....
2006-09-08 12:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure. Most books about marriages and kids are by divorced people or those that don't have children.
What's up with THAT?
2006-09-08 11:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋