i suffer guilt trips every time i masturbate, i feel like a porn addict, i don't have a girlfriend that will keep me company when i'm in the mood and i feel very shy to make friends with the kind of woman i desire. Any advise/help/
2006-09-08 04:48:46 · 10 answers · asked by Affluent 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There is nothing wrong with what you are doing, it is a natural part of life for everybody. If your girlfriend doesn't like what you do you need to tell her it is better than cheating on her. Try to over come your shyness and find a woman who you desire. DO NOT deprive yourself of something you feel so passionate about just because you are shy.
2006-09-08 06:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should take a breath and realize that masturbation is a healthy release as long as you are doing it within the privacy of your own home. The probability of you actually being an addict is very minor as your description is not as intense as it cold be. If you find yourself watching porn all night, unable to ho;d a job, unable to have a physical relationship with a consenting sexual partner then that would a cause for concern but from what you have described you have guilt from pleasuring yourself. You should not feel bad about pleasuring oneself but you should feel better knowing that 98% of the population masturbates and the visual stimulation form porn only enhances the experience. THIS IS SOCIALLY and SOCIETAL NORMAL BEHAVIOR!
ENJOY!
2006-09-08 12:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by psychologist is in 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-08 23:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initially masturbation is a desire for intimacy.... operating at the level of ones MIND. Masturbation is quite normal, unless it interferes with ones life, and then it is a problem. One rather infamous Surgeon General once recommended teaching it as a substitute for sexual intercourse.
All that aside, since you "feel" it to be a problem, then it is. You might begin by drifting back in memory to your relationship with your mother. If she was distant, or not especially warm and close with you, you may have developed the idea that this distant behavior is what you will receive if you reach out to females. In this case, masturbation is of course a safer way to meet this need.
Be patient, and allow yourself to move into the game between males and females slowly. When the time is right, you will meet someone who will cause all your hesitation to vanish. Peace
2006-09-08 12:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by docjp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel guilty over masterbating...every one does it at all ages and stages.Doing it does not make u an addict...but if u feel consumed by it_try to adopt some other hobby that'll help u overcome this guilt trip..
2006-09-08 12:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you are a very courageous man to own up, every one has indulged in this one time or the other but do not have guts to own up .With such qualities you are sure to get a girl friend sooner than later.be nice to her and other things including marriage will follow.Do try to keep you self busy with hard games and good hobbies as twenty four hour sex drive is neither recommended nor is conducive to good health.
2006-09-08 12:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by sweet smell -removes bad oder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do something over and over again
then you know your going to feel bad about,right
then why go back to the things that makes you feel bad after it.
you can over come anything you want to,but,only if you really want to.
you haft to want it so badly that you stop doing the wrong thing and start to do the right thing.
it's like mind over matter.
try to get into something you know will take you mind off the porn and look at what you can do to help others.
put all your energy into things positive and stay away from the negative.
2006-09-08 12:17:05 · answer #7 · answered by DENISE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to break your addiction to porn? Only religious bigots would want you to feel guilty about using porno. Everyone uses it. People that say they don't are usually hypocrites.
2006-09-08 11:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Channel this form of urge in another direction. There are so many organizations you could volunteer for service. In this you my truly find your purpose to help others & rerserve you sexual emotions for someone you wish to marry. I hope this helps...
2006-09-08 12:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by Donald R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a passion and magically you will have a social life
2006-09-08 12:04:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋