She is a high powered lawyer and has a trial all next month. She threatened to take the kids completely so I agreed to let her have the kids most of the time. She wants me to take them next month so that she can be free to do whatever for her trial and also continue to see the men she dates now. I refuse. The kids have a regular nanny. I see them on my regular schedule, four days every two weeks. For those of you who will say "that is why she left you" it is not. I tried for six months to get her back and did everything, and i mean everything, she wanted. Sacrificed a lot. I have begun a new life and don't believe that I should change it, even temporarily, to accommodate her.
2006-09-08 04:31:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While I would not bow to her pressure, I would use the time for added time with the children!!
2006-09-13 00:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of thinking of this in an angry way toward your ex, how about thinking of the kids?
Do u think 4 days every 2 weeks is being a real dad??? You have a real chance here to spend some real time with your kids!!!!!!!!!! If you re-think this, you'll see this as an opportunity for u and your kids to strengthen the bond between you. Don't blow this blessing
2006-09-08 11:48:39 · answer #2 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't just use you as a babysitting service whenever she needs you, so if this is a regular thing, then I would say no. At the same time, it's a chance for you to spend some more time with your kids. I wouldn't give that up, even if it would spite your ex. I say take the kids, they need time with their dad.
2006-09-08 11:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by ask the eightball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything you say rings true, and I can empathize because I've gone through something very similar.
But.....what about your kids? You have an opportunity to spend more time with them, don't disregard that just because it would at the same time help out your ex.
Why don't you ask your kids what they'd like?
2006-09-08 11:37:55 · answer #4 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking that you are helping your wife. Get into relationship with your children...they need you especially if mom is out dating already. I am from a divorced family and it is hard. Take them on, maybe you can have them full time and be "the dad" full time. You have to think of them, they are yours and they love you and need you. If mom is willing to be away from them, good for you, let them know that you will ALWAYS be there for them.
2006-09-08 12:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could use this to get the kids back permanently. She doesn't hav ethe time to properly care for them.
To be honest, I think I would take the kids just to be with them, not to help out the ex. They are your kids and you should want to be with them whenever you can.
2006-09-08 13:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by extra_37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think,if you can than you should try to. you stil need to work together. Be nice. But dont put yourself out. Just think you would have the kids more. And someday you may need her help. You both need to be flexible.
2006-09-08 11:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by loladoreen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right!! Dont let her push you around anymore!! You already gave up too much for her. Stay strong! Good luck to you
2006-09-08 11:36:38 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget her your not her slave. or maybe take the kids. and run the **** off with them
2006-09-08 11:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, stand your ground.
2006-09-08 11:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by teulonbranchlibrary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋