my husband and I had been married for 17 years, I cheated on him 2 times and he found out, forgave me but couldn't get past it. We ended up getting a divorce, he's remarried and acts like he was never married to me, he doesn't even see his kids as much, we don't communicate at all. Do u think there is a chance we will get back together?
2006-09-08 04:26:45 · 14 answers · asked by Destany 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it doesnt sound like you will get back together to me. It sounds like he has moved on but still may hold some anger towards you. Find someone else that you can be faithful to. Good luck
2006-09-08 04:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
None at all. With all due respect to you, I think you are dreaming about something that won't ever come true. He obviously has moved on with his life given that he has remarried, and you definitely need to do the same.Your reaction is not all that uncommon - you now want what you can't have, but when you had it you didn't want it. Perhaps you aren't dating someone now and this is fueling your desire to get back with him. You feel jealous that he has found happiness in his life, while you haven't. But, let's say he wasn't married and you did get back together. I can bet you dollars to donuts that the things that were troublesome in your marriage to begin with would come up again. People don't change all that much in life, especially when they haven't learned the lesson.
While it is a shame he doesn't see your kids much, the fact that he doesn't communicate with you is understandable. You betrayed him twice and he simply could not get over it. You hurt him very badly, obviously. You seriously need to take responsibility for your actions because you created the problem in the first place. You need to uncover the root causes of your need to betray your former husband so that you can understand why you did it to begin with. If your troubles were caused by a lack of communication between you two, you can learn how to effectively communicate your needs rather than running into the arms of another man as a way to resolve your issues. To have a successful relationship next time, you will have to do this. Try speaking to a counselor about this and move on with your own life. He has. If you truly loved him as a person you would respect that and let him go with love - he has a right to happiness in his new life. Let him go.
Good luck! And learn the lesson.
2006-09-08 12:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you have something in common with my wife. So tell me was it worth it, is it greener on the other side, you know you can purchase toys, instead you cheat sad,sad. You know what I don't blame him at all as for seeing the kids I hope he comes around because they didn't the hose bag did. Sorry for that but Im still not past the cheating thing myself but trying to make things work. Let me guess it was a phase, NO YOU HAD TOO MUCH TO DRINK, the best one I DONT KNOW WHY. OH yes Im so sorry then you do it all over again. women like you and my wife deserve each other you cheating women are pathetic..........................
2006-09-08 11:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by Funny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well let's see. You cheated on him and you got caught. Then you cheated on him again and got caught. He finally divorced your sorry @$$. He doesn't have hardly anything to do with his own children because he can't stand looking at you. He doesn't talk to you at all or very little. He has remarried. Hello!!!!!!! Are you retarded or just stupid? He will never take you back. Do yourself a favor and learn from you mistakes. Find another man and move on. But this time don't cheat on him. And pray that the old saying, "What goes around comes around" doesn't apply to you. If it does, then that means he will cheat on you. Not once, and I don't believe twice. If what goes around truly does come around then you will get back what you gave twice. So that means he will cheat on you four times and you will hurt twice as bad as you hurt your husband.
I wish you luck in your life. You are definitely going to need it. You are in for a world of pain.
My ex-husband cheated on me and after our divorce he remarried the girl he was cheated on me with. She cheated on him and he walked in on them in his bed. Ask him about what goes around comes around. Not a good situation. Now he wants me back and it's too late. I wouldn't take him back if he was the last man on earth. He burned me once, I won't give him the chance to do it again.
You burned your husband twice. If he's smart, he won't give you the chance to do it again.
2006-09-08 11:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by dollfacedbaby1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion .....Take it as he is hurt that someone he loved hurt him almost as bad as they could. and i think he did the right thing to you was to get a divorce. sorry but one time is a mistake and two times you meant to do it and enjoyed it. and if you didnt learn your lesson the first time then what makes him think you wont do it again. so maybe you need to find someone like you......a cheater. that way you both can cheat on eachother and still have each other and not care what you just did. GEEZE WHERE ARE YOUR MORALS??? and as far as the kids go... you didnt care enough about them when you were cheating. so why are you going to look down on him for not seeing them as much? you didnt see them either when you where doing someone else. like you were suppose to do.
2006-09-08 11:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by Ruthless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only chance that you'll get back together is when your husband starts trusting you again..which I'm sorry to say is most unlikely to happen. Please get over it and stop hoping for a possible reconciliation between you two. Sometimes things happen when you're less expecting it. Look at the brighter side. Good luck!
2006-09-08 11:36:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well how bout this, my wife cheated, she filed for divorce, she was in lust over this guy, about nine months later she wanted to go to counseling, she still being with this other guy, wanted to know if we could go to counseling, well just so happen i found a great women, who treats me like a king, she id 100% better in bed, super sexy, and i think about her lets say all the dam time, my x-wife chose her bed to sleep in and now she freakin hates the nest she made. as far as the kids i dont get to see them very much that is the part i hate, i do what i can, provide what they need, but my new wife, takes care of my kids better than she ever did, you lose lady get over it, but one good thing is that you and my X deserve to live unsecure and anhappy for the things ya'll did, and don't be upset when he takes you back to court for more custody of the kids and gets it, cause you chose to screw somebody else and had the time to screw somebody else, instead of spending time with your family,you don't deserve any rights, your trash and what decent man wants TRASH, i put mine to the road every week!!!!!!
2006-09-08 11:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Zero chance if he's smart.
You obviously weren't satisfied with him, or you would not have cheated. And you would again if given a chance.
Are you any good?
2006-09-08 11:39:50 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Feelgood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has moved on, good for him. No, there's no chance in hell you two will get back together, unless he's a total dumba$$ (which he doesn't sound to be).
2006-09-08 11:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No chance at all.I am sorry your hurting but, I dont think it woudl be healthy for him or you to get back together. I am sorry
2006-09-08 11:30:15 · answer #10 · answered by loladoreen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋