My parents got divorced because my dad was a no-good philander and a terrible father.
I am in my 30's and still single. Can anyone relate?
2006-09-08 04:23:28 · 14 answers · asked by germaine_87313 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sweetie from my point of view that should not affect your relationship, Your parents might have made certain mistakes and besides they might be different from you and others so try to accept people for who they are and thinks would probably work out for you. Yes you can really make this work out, wish you all the best.
2006-09-08 04:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by Kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, my parents have been married for eighteen years until my father's death and their marriage hasn't affected my love life at all. The only thing that affected my relationships was the type of people my parents were, their personalities and what they have done before me because they made a lot of mistakes before they got married which carried out to their children.
My personality is split and based upon both my parents. My father was a meek & quiet man and my mother was an outspoken woman speaking her mind. I am shy and quiet in a surrounding of people I am around people I don't know and when I see something that just isn't right, I get up and out there and speak on it. Just like my parents, before I was married I made mistakes that are simply unimaginable.
If you ask the Lord in a private room in a prayer, offering the mesiah as the lamb and your sacrifice to seperate you from your family, you'll be ridiculed and released to be your own person and God will help you in any way if you talk to him about this and other things. Within days or weeks, you'll notice a sure-fire change in you, your behavior, and love life.
2006-09-08 04:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom left my dad when i was 4 my father got custody of us, and he's a great Dad.. but nonetheless.. because of my mother leaving, and although she did stay near by and we saw her every other weekend ect.. I have a problem with abandonment.. always worring that people are going to leave me, and always anticipating that who im with will eventually leave..i have a poor self esteem, because i feel like im not good enough.. and that if im not perfect that well.. someone will leave lol.. and its affected my relationships.. always anticipating the bottom will drop out from under me even when theres nothing there.. so instead of just being happy in the moment im constantly waiting for something bad to happen.. and i went to therapy at one time, and it was found to all be linked back to my mother leaving us.. and ive always depended on "men" to make me feel better about myself..and safe.. and they say its because the only person ive ever depended on and that has always been there for me is my father.. and so i seek out needing a man to depend on emotionally to take his place.. to the point that im very co-dependent and clingy..
2006-09-08 04:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not directly.. when my parents divorced when I was 12.. All of is kids thought It was about time. I was single till I was 24. I waiting for the right one to come along.. nothing wrong with holding out. I took all the bad from my parents marriage and knew what NOT to look for :) Good LUCK!
2006-09-08 04:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by Serious Mandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sadly my parents split when i was 5 years old. The lack of a father figure in my life made me crave male attention, which turned me into a complete doormat around my teen years. Luckily i did find a good man to be with and we've been together 10 years now, but it is really quite difficult learning to trust men and getting over the feelings that they are going to cheat on you and walk out like our fathers did.
I really hope you find resolve! Good luck and hugs x
2006-09-08 04:29:00 · answer #5 · answered by pootle_monster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom's been married 7 times and I didn't meet my biological dad until I was 28, I think most of the world have disfunctional marriages, relationships. For me I just look at my parents mistakes and try not to make the same ones! I am on my second husband and we are happy. Whether or not we make it depends on us and not what our parents did!!
2006-09-08 04:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents are still married and have a fantastic marriage. Great for me, right? I wish- I compare every relationship I have to them. Why aren't we like this or that? I didn't realize I did for a long time. They set the bar for me. And I am just now seeing that I need to set my own standards and they are not my parents. It needs to be mine.
2006-09-08 04:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by loladoreen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope my parents are going on 24 years and they set a perfect example and i have now been happily married for 2 years, my husbands parents were killed when he was 4 so we dotn hjave that example..i think u can have a succesful marriage even if ur parents wasnt it just takes a willingness to work on it.
2006-09-08 04:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ YaHabibeDisney ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i do think that your parents relationship affects yours, it did mine, i have been married for three years and me and my wife had to go to counseling because i guess i have some trust issues, my mom split on me and my father when i was two years old, the counselour said that i pick fights with my wife and try to leave her because subconsciously i want to be the one to end the marriage because i dont want her to leave me like my mother did, so yes i definately think your parents realationships have an effect on yours. hope i helped
2006-09-08 04:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on alot of ways: since divorices up 100% in California by means of bad relationship some times but my parents been married for 50yrs .Others that who cheats on spouse is wrong person
2006-09-08 04:44:14 · answer #10 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋