what should i do? im really confused..I love the baby very much but i don't like the msn! please give me an advice!
2006-09-08 04:12:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, I’d like to say how sorry I am for the situation that you had forced upon you.
Divorce is a messy situation, and it is never easy on the kids.
I can certainly appreciate your confusion…
Losing your dad, and then finding someone else apparently trying to take his place.
Be sure of one thing, OK… If you still love your father, you have every right to do so…
Your mother marrying someone else does not mean that you shouldn’t continue to love your father!!!
It is great that you love the baby… Your own little brother/sister.
Please don’t ever let the fact that you have different fathers interfere with the way you feel.
As for your feelings toward your mother’s new man…
Try to give him a chance.
Hopefully, he will learn to love you as though you were his natural daughter.
He will never replace your father, but there isn’t anything wrong with having ‘two dads’ who love you !!!
Try to understand that for your mum, there is ‘life after divorce’…
She is entitled to her happiness, and if her new man can give her what she needs, then you should perhaps try to support her.
Understand also, that ‘your happiness’ is extremely important to your mother, and that she would never allow the feelings she has toward her new man to interfere with the love that she feels for you !!!
Don’t lose sight of the love you feel for your father… Love that little baby, with all your heart… Try to understand your mother’s needs… Allow the new man, the chance to prove himself to you.
I hope everything goes well for you.
Good luck !!!
2006-09-08 04:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Acceptance is the best advice I can give to you. Your mom has made her mind up and as long as she's happy, be happy for her. You'll have a much better relationship this way. You still have your own dad, this man isn't replacing him, your mom just wasn't happy with your father anymore.
2006-09-08 04:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really nothing you can do. be supportive of your mother and let her know how you feel. tell her you Love her and the baby but you just don't like her new husband. In the long run your mother will see that you were at least willing to try.
2006-09-08 04:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by Tia Dalma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a sad state of affairs today, and I'd like to bring about a law that would outlaw divorce, except on the grounds of unfaithfulness.
2006-09-08 04:15:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun you have no control over what your mother does. There is not a thing you can do about until you are 18. Just be respectful and grin and bear it. I am assuming there is no form of abuse here. If abuse is involved tell an adult you trust.
2006-09-08 04:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to like him, but for your mother's sake try as best you could to get alone with him. It would be best for all. After all your mother deserve to be happy and you should be respectful and not take that away from her. Here's my personal quote I'd like to share with you. "When things are not going your way, use it as an opportunity to show how much class you have.
2006-09-08 04:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time.
My father did the same thing, but I didn't live with him, so I was okay with it. I get along okay with the half-sibs.
But a long time ago, it was a messy split for my parents. My dad's a jerk, there's no one to blame but him for that.
2006-09-08 04:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by germaine_87313 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about your parent's divorce. I'm recently divorced (and my ex-wife remarried) and my kids are quite upset about it.
You didn't mention how old you are? Adult?
Anyway....I suggest counseling. You've gone through a traumatic experience, don't try to go-it alone.
2006-09-08 04:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We don't get to pick our parents. But you can become the best big brother or sister to this baby. I understand it is hard to have a step parent but that was not your choice.
2006-09-08 04:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on how old you are. if your old enough to be on your own, then go. try staying with your dad. there is nothing you can do. it is her life/marriage.
find a way to accept it. don't ruin something that could be good for her.
but sit adown and talk to her about it. maybe everyone can express their feelings/thoughts.
2006-09-08 04:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by Heather G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋