FROM YESTERDAY:Ok so at the end of July my best friend from another state and I got a place together. Previous to that I lived w/ my boyfriend. She doesn't know many people out here and is afraid to be at home alone. My b/f wants me to spend nights w/ him sometimes, so I made arrangements to pay my cousin to stay w/ her at our apt. and take him home the next day. The guy that she's talking to never sleeps over but will stay as late as 2am...which to me is a waste of my time and money. So now, I'm low on cash, her date is busy tonite, and my b/f wants time w/ me tonite!!! What should I do b/c now my man is pissed and feels she's interferring w/ our relationship......
SO LAST NIGHT I CALLED AND TOLD HER I'M W/ MY BF ...SHE HUNG UP AND TEXTED ME "**** YOU AND UR BF..I DON'T KNOW Y I'M UR FRIEND..I SHOULD MOVE" WHAT'S HER PROBLEM?? WHAT SHOULD I DO?? IS SHE CRAZY B/C NOW EVERYONE THINKS SHE HAS "PROBLEMS"...GRRR!!!! NOW I HAVE TO GO HOME TO THIS TONITE! I'M FEEL I'M GONNA GO OFF! HELP
2006-09-08 03:58:04 · 5 answers · asked by Nicole M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You were actually paying someone to stay with her? Wow...she needs to deal with her issues, maybe get a dog.
It is not your job to babysit her. You are an adult and so is she. Sit down and explain to her that she needs to figure something out for herself!
If she moved out she wouldn't have anyplace to go...remind her of that when she pulls the "I'll just move out" crap!
Good luck!
2006-09-08 04:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by Moosha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend is jealous of your relationship with your best friend. Make arrangements so that you can spend time with both of them. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him the truth, nothing but the truth. Your best friend was there for you before you hooked up with him right? It looks like to me that you're caught in the middle between your best friend and your boyfriend. Talk to your best friend as well. Yes, she is new in town, but she needs to go out there and meet new people. Your friend feels "left out" right now because she feels that you are putting your boyfriend first before her. Reassure her that you will always be there for her, but let your actions speak louder than words. The best thing that you can do is to talk to your boyfriend and your best friend. I hope my advice helps. Good luck.
2006-09-08 04:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK she is either an adult or a child and if she wants to act like a child she should move in with her parents. You are not her sitter and she AND you needs to get a grip. I wouldnt pay anyone ro stay with her. If she can't get a grip I would tell her she needs to go and then find a INDEPENDENT room mate to take her place.
2006-09-08 04:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blow off a friendship. But, don't blow off your boyfriend.
I think that you need to talk to you friend / roommate. All too often people don't realize that they neglect their friendship when they are dating.
And, stop paying people to hang out with your roommate.
2006-09-08 04:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by Brooke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whose life are you trying to live? her? yours? your bf's?
2006-09-08 04:06:13 · answer #5 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋