2006-09-08 03:49:32 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have found seduction to be highly effective and fun!
2006-09-08 11:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay technically speaking you can't get them out when they surely don't wish to come out to begin with. I have a cousin who I knew was gay and all I did was this... I pretty much told him that coming out is not as hard as some people put it. True they do not wish to be rejected and spit on if they ever decide to come out, but to make things a little better they can slowly come out to the people that he has a strong feeling of acceptance. I then decided to list the people that TRULY loved him. So be kind and explain that not anybody is here to hurt them. Their mom can be accepting or their dad..their little brother/sister...Perhaps not family but more like friends..and let them know that they will NEVER be alone. More importantly let them know that you are there for them, because you love them (BEST of friends I mean). Then let go because you cannot force someone to get out of the closet and wait...They will slowly begin to analyze the situation and see that you in truth spoke in an honest manner. And whenever they are ready (If it happens also), they will come out by their own free will. =)
2006-09-08 07:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by Clais 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. You become a supportive friend. understanding that this is not an easy thing for most to admit of do. Help them understand slowly by talking about how safe it is to be open and gay in today's society. help them see the positive sides of coming out. That is about all one can do, but don't push them. They may climb farther into the closet.
If they do come out, be even more supportive. It is a very hard time for them. Just be a friend
2006-09-08 03:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Surely it is their choice whether or not to come out of that closet - it may not be the right time for them, after all, its their life. If they want to come out then they will do it in their own time and way. If they're not ready to come out, any attempts to force them out may only push them further in. If they are gay they will let you know when they are good and ready.
2006-09-08 03:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by footie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone and I personally hate people that feel the need to out others. My advice is to be a good supportive friend and try and help them come to terms with their sexuality, some of us get there quicker than others, whilst some of us take a long time to realise what we are. Be patient, be honest but be sensitive.
2006-09-08 04:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by Paddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont' think you can. Some people never really come out. Especially if they don't want their parents to know. And anyway, how can you be so sure they're gay? Some straight men are camp, for example. And if it is a girl, wearing shapeless clothes and a crew cut are not conclusive signs.
2006-09-08 03:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by helen g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's none of your business. Being in or out of the closet about anything is a person's own business (unless, of course, it's illegal). Only a busybody would want to make the disclosure of such a thing for another person.
2006-09-08 03:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by Pandak 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that everyone demands that you have to come out of the closet? If you wish to keep your own privacy then that should be respected. I dont go up to everyone saying "oh, I didn't know you were straight".
2006-09-08 04:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let them know that you do not have a problem with gays. Be indirect but let them know that your friend can be whatever they want to be in life and you will love them no matter what. If they know all that it will make it easier for them to come out.
2006-09-08 09:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by nicksname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, you should leave that to the person. Many people just "know" someone is gay and it turns out they aren't. This may be the case. All you can do is be there for them should they need you.
2006-09-08 03:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think that that's their own business, not yours? Outing an individual who isn't ready is just mean. Their reasons for staying "closeted" are theirs. Your radical activism in trying to out this person will only make things worse for them, and harder for them to come to terms with their sexuality.
2006-09-08 03:56:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋