my husband wants us to watch porn because " it keeps him up longer" what do i do?

Question

i find porn VERY disrespectful because im pregnant and i fel fat , and he only wanted to start doing this once i became pregnant..and i think he dosent like to look at me or maybe he cant get off because i've gained 10 pounds. And it makes me feel very bad, but when i tell him NO i dont want to watch it he gets made goes upstaris to the bedroom and watches it anyways! what can i say or do to make him see things my way? im in a lot of need for help and i dont know what to do! im afraid this may ruin our marriage

Answer 1

Make your own porn, then he will watch you.
Some guys like the preggo porn...
do a net search if ya dont beleive me.
besides... if hes staring in it too he'll love it.
its an ego thing.

Answer 2

WOW, the excuse that it makes him stay "UP" longer is Bull Sh*t.. if he's lasting longer its because of the distraction not because its actually helping him, because Porn is usually something that Arouses someone. so if anything it would make him be a 2 minute man then to actually last longer, which if his excuse is to just last longer, then he can have the tv playing in the back ground with out it being Porn.. and it will do the same thing, distract him from what he's doing...
Unfortunately , u've married a little boy trapped in a mans body.. that when he cant have his way goes and throws a tantrum.. He's using all these excuses to get his way and when he doesnt, he throws his tantrum and does it anyways.. so New Mommy.. what do u do when a little boy throws a tantrum??? do u enable it?? or do u ignore it? or do u punish?

U dont enable it.. because well if u enable it.. he will just keep getting his way and u will never fix the problem..

If u scold him for it.. then it just makes things worse and makes them more apt to do things like this cause it gives them attention to act this way..

So... IGNORE HIM... completely, as if he doesnt exsist.. letting him know this behavior is not going to be tolerated.... stop doing all ur Wifely duties.. stop cleaning, stop cooking, stop doing the laundry..Do only for u..., Stop ALL SEX, act happy, but also a bit cold towards him, make conversation short and sweet and to the point.. and when he starts wondering what the hell is going on.. let him know when he wants to start actting like the husband u married, and the "man" ur child is going to need as a GOOD role model.. to let u know and u'll start actting like a wife again.. instead of a housekeeper and babymaker.. and he'll in turn try to turn it up ... so he can "WIN" and will probably start watching even more porn to try and show u , who is boss.. but dont let it phase u, just stick to ur guns.. because although Watching porn.. is good visually.. his hand will start becoming boring, and he'll eventually want the real thing.. and when he does.. BOOM, u got him.... Just like when children throw temper tantrums.. when they cant seem to get what they want from mommy by throwing fits and well actting like this doesnt get mommy's attention.. they eventually get bored with it, and stop actting that way ...

Answer 3

Relax! It isn't going to ruin your marriage. Pg women are very sexy in their own way and you need to give yourself some esteem bring it up somehow! Him watching porn is o.k. really! It is not an act of disrespect he is being honest and feels comfortable sharing that with you and asking you to watch it with him therefore you should! You shouldn't be upset it is just a t.v screen. Think of how humiliated he is when you reject him of this he is embarased and feels like he shouldn't have told you at all in the first place, don't make him feel this way it will only lead to misfortune... He isn't afraid to tell you this interests him, you shouldn't be afraid to let him watch it or watch it with him!

Go buy yourself a new outfit something sexy maybe a couple of them a new sexy dress and get in the mood! Experience this with him, go with the flow, he is not saying you are unattractive, he is saying lets get it on! Happy days a head for sure!!!

Answer 4

Hey listen, don't call yourself fat. Your not fat, your pregnant and that is a beautifull thing. The porn, that should not make you feel disrespected. We all want to look like a porn star but most of don't. God made you the way you are for a reason. Be happy with yourself and go watch some porn with your honey. Trust me, you will probably enjoy it.

Answer 5

No it won't calm down.First i feel that pregnant women are the truly beautiful,they have a glow about them like there rapped in GOD"S love and shine like the heavens themselves.I'm sure ten pounds hasn't of won't hurt you a bit and your not fat your making a baby inside you! And your body has to grow to accept and make the miracle inside you,and you can lose the weight when your done if you work hard enough at it.As for your husband let him watch it alone and shame on him for not being more supportive.Don't worry in time things will return back to normal with a new life as well.Good luck.

Answer 6

Girlfriend I know exactly what you mean. My boyfriend watches too. I let him for a while and I even watched with him for a while. But he would watch them every time. even if I said I didn't want to he would still watch. I throw them away and he gets more. I explained that watching them makes me feel bad about my self. Like anyone looks like that . I have always been confident but now I am insecure and I have gain weight and I know its because He can't be with me unless he watches porn. i wish I had never let him start. Just throw it away. over and over if that's what it takes or cut him off. And no amount of porn can substitute the real thing.

Answer 7

Please stop worrying, for the baby sake.. You don't want to have a nervous baby cause your upsetting yourself...(Sorry but baby comes first) Then secondly, Let that man watch those darn porno's..I would rather my husband be stopped in front of the t.v in our house... Then outside trying to find the real deal. T.V is nothing more than an illusion, even though there real people.... But I myself don't see nothing wrong with a man watching porno's. You can't cheat by looking at a T.V screen.. Sweetheart don't mess up your marriage because your emotions are getting away from you... Just be glad that although your not feeling yourself right now because of the baby. He still at home with you and not in the streets... Now calm down.. Buy him some more porno's.. Maybe, watch them with him.. I don't know but be glads he's home.. And not out trying to find the real deal... And stop it before you make him sneak and do it.. Cause that's what it will lead to.... Good Luck and take care of the baby.. Who needs you both..

Answer 8

Let him know how you feel without getting into an arguement about it.

Hormones are a tricky thing- we usually "flip out" over the little things. But if you are the type of person who doesn't like porn altogether then there is no happy medium.

I'm assuming your sex drive is low due to your feelings of "feeling fat". Just remember that it will be over soon and maybe find a different way to compromise sexual excitement other than porn.

I hear role playing works.....

Answer 9

He found a good excuse to watch porn. He wants you to feel that it is because you are pregnant (which is probably not the case.) he just wants to watch it. No matter if you were a model I bet he would look at porn. Men are visual. I would be more mad because of the fact he is getting mad if you are not wanting to watch them. He should respect your feelings.

Answer 10

properly, i think of a lot of fellows view porn as fantasy, or of project to flee. My husband seems at porn according to possibility a pair of times a week and in specific cases he will jack off to it. It does not difficulty me because of the fact we nevertheless have a healthful intercourse life, and it is basically fantasy. in specific cases although, there's a deeper reason for them watching porn. according to possibility your intercourse life has hit a rut the place he's bored, according to possibility you do not have intercourse as many times as he might like or possibly he feels he initiates it to lots and porn basically excites him. It does no longer mean that he's no longer drawn to you although, you basically ought to chat to him and ask him approximately it, see what he says and doubtless think of a few few issues to strengthen your intercourse life. i be attentive to that whatever a female does, she would have the ability to by no skill end a guy from watching porn, nor she shouldn't because of the fact it is not lustfully cheating in my e book, it is purely a organic undertaking for a guy to do. yet he needs to comprehend which you're uncomfortable with it and which you're beginning off to experience 2nd terrific to a pretend porn female. talk issues out and optimistically each thing works out