My friends birthday is coming up and she wants to go out. On my birthday she didn't show up until the last ten minutes of the outing and then went home. Her reason was because their was one of my guest she didn't like and that's why she wasn't coming. I was really hurt by this because I felt she should have come regardless if she didn't like the guest. I was just wondering if I should do her the same way or be the bigger person and go? Any advise?
2006-09-08
03:31:11
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By the way. This is not the first time she has done this. She often does not show up to things I have invited her too. But if I don't show up then I get the call of crying and her telling me how hurt her feelings are.
2006-09-08
04:02:36 ·
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I think you should go. Assuming you have already discussed the way you feel about her not showing for your birthday, it is best to put it in the past and move on. You will do more damage to your friendship engaging in a tit-for-tat. Having said that, if she is the type of friend that always gives less than you do, perhaps it is time to re-think the relationship.
2006-09-08 03:35:16
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answered by Anonymous
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Yes because it will show your maturity. Just because someone is there that you don't like doesn't mean you have to talk to them. You're there for the birthday girl not the guests. So go be the friend you want her to be!!! And just have fun.
2006-09-08 10:36:13
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answered by Niki 2
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I had 2 friends last year who tried their best to make my 40th about them. You have to ask yourself how important is this person in your life? How well does she treat you other than the time on your birthday? Is she consistent about treating you this way? Your birthday is your day, not her's. She should have been able to rise above "one of your guests" and sucked it up for you for one night. Some friends, however close they are, turn out to be toxic, and you just have to move on.
2006-09-08 10:35:26
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answered by naya45342 2
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Hmmm....honestly, I would go. Show you are the bigger person. If you are the type to hold a grudge, then dont go, but I would go. She is your friend afterall, and you should be there. You could show up and leave early if you choose to. You don't even have to give an explanation. Just do it. In the end, it is your decision on what you do.
2006-09-08 10:40:00
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answered by Genny 3
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Honestly, if you go, will you have a good time? Or be bent on the fact she didn't come? Personally its rude to go and be in a bad mood the whole time, but so is not RSVPing and only showing up for 10 minutes. I would do unto her as you would want her to do unto you. If you decide that is not going, be the better person and RSVP as soon as possible.
2006-09-08 10:45:36
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answered by cyunos 2
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Yes I think you should be a BIGGER person and go. U should never make your self feel or look small or smaller than anyone. U be a better good person and go and enjoy your friends birthday. GOODLUCK and you have a good time :)
2006-09-08 10:38:42
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answered by Anonymous
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I think you have too much anger to go, I would call and tell her how you feel and let her know you just don't seem right going, You might lose a friend, but it will show you either, you become better friends or go your own way.
2006-09-08 10:58:01
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answered by lennie 6
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Go have a good time. Two wrongs don't make it right. Be the bigger person and go enjoy yourself. Good luck.
2006-09-08 10:34:12
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answered by aimstir31 5
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It doesn't make the situation any better if you don't go. I recommend going to her birthday event and if she continues with this flakey behavior than you can bring it up to her. All in all, it was only just one incident.
2006-09-08 10:34:11
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answered by flyboop_2000 3
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go. she was probably trying to avoid the obvious tension between her and the other person and not ruin your day. two wrongs do not make a right. have a great time!
2006-09-08 10:43:23
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answered by evonne i 4
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