The Insides or the Outsides?

Question

When people dream about their Ideal partner it's always all this superficial crap. This tall, this wide, this small. Don't they realize the person could get in a car accident and change in a minute, only the insides would stay the same. What type of dreamer are you? Insides of a person or the Outsides?

Answer 1

I'm a complete package kinda dreamer :-)

Answer 2

Outside.

I was born superficial and shallow.

And I beg to differ about the inside remaining the same.

I reckon it's truer to say that people change internally much faster, with less warning and more drastically, and often for the worst, than they can ever do on the outside. Unless, of course, they catch fire and a well-meaning if overly impetuous mob extinguishes the conflagration with cricket bats.

For the most part, and barring some dreadful and unforeseen eventuality, people only change in to something older on the outside with the passage of time. And in and of itself, that often adds up to nothing more that a subtle change in the type of beauty they already possess.

But inside they can become any kind of ageless and vindictive mental case.

Why, I've even come across people who may have been ugly on the outside but were actually beyond hideous on the inside. And my current mate is frankly drop-dead-gorgeous by any standards but has a surprisingly pleasant personality as well. Which is reason enough for me to dismiss that twee little notion that all ugly people must be beautiful on the inside, and all beautiful people are obviously hell-spawned degenerates and ne'er-do-wells on the inside.

In the end, every book is a gamble.

But if it does turn out to be a load of old codswallop, an attractive cover at least gives it ornamental value, and makes it worth picking up and rifling through every now and then :oP

Answer 3

The Insides

Answer 4

Both. Insides are of course more important - that is who a person really is..HOWEVER..anyone that says they don't care about the outside package - that it doesn't matter?..is lying to themselves and to others. Humans are humans and we all ARE attracted to a certain 'type' more than another type. The outsides may not be AS important to some as the insides...but it's still a consideration and important on a certain level.
I don't have to have George Clooney (but gee that would be nice)...but if he's lookin' a lil like the Elephant Man...I don't think no matter HOW nice he was...I'd be wanting him for more than a friend...lol. Most people need that physical / sexual attraction as WELL as the emotional attraction for it to be their idea of a "dream" partner as you indicated.

Answer 5

Well you question brings up an old saying..."Beauty is as beauty does." Nobody thinks about that but it is so true.

Beauty today spends all its time, effort and money maintaining itself. Just yesterday there was a Brazilian woman who died in Framingham, MA from complications of plastic surgery. She was only 23 years old!

What kind of a world have we become that people are so obsessed with their appearance that they would undergo elective surgery and risk their lives? Why do people feel so inadequate?
Your question is appropriate...and it leads me to many more questions.

I believe our whole way of life is programmed that way because staying or becomming beautiful is big business in first world countries. The woman who died was Brazilian...and according to the paper report...the Brazilian culture is much worse than we are about this subject. Everyone wants to be "The Girl from Ipanema." Seems everyone is programmed to believe their lives will be perfect if they make the grade in this "exterior" way.

I think we would all agree it is fine to improve youself and you should but when is enough, enough? Do we have to know every move made by Jessica Simpson (yeah okay, she's a doll)? Do we have to strive to look like her? She's an entertainer...it is her business to look good. Would she get that far on her talent? I don't think so. She's no Celine Dion now is she?

I think people have never learned the art of discernment. If they did the stock in these beauty industries would plumment. They are like those lobby groups that our elected official bow to and who have forgotten who put them in office and why. So I can only conclude it is all about money. Money enables more advertisements about beauty...we are all brainwashed!
The business of American is sex. Look at some of the Yahoo questions ...many of the categories revolve around getting, catching or keeping the other sex. It is not the answer but how do you convince them of that? We need to be deprogrammed but it will never happen...money talks and talks but it does not bring the happiness that it claims to produce. What ever happened to "interior knowledge" about growing up gracefully or walking in beauty? Like I said, I don't have the answer just more questions.

Shakespeare said it best , "All is vanity."

Answer 6

Insides.

Answer 7

insides and outside but insides are most important

Answer 8

both