I am 22 now. I am seniour at my university in Japan. and In Japan, university semester end on March. so I will graduate on March, 2007. I have an American BF. He is living in US. I met him 2 years ago, when I studying English in California. He is 10 years older than me. He will go to another countries for work from this month to next March.
I will graduate next March, and he will come back to US next March. I am thinking I wanna get marry. because I love him. and I cant take long-distance love situation.
I dont know what should I do. should I ask him about marry? But people say a man feel heavy when a girlfriend ask about marry. I am doing job hunting now in Japan, but I am thinking of marry with him so i cant concentrate that. maybe you think stupid. because if i will get work in Japan, long-distance love again or our relationship will have to over....
the best way to solve my question is to ask my bf, but I feel scary, so I use this. please help me...
2006-09-08 02:55:34 · 23 answers · asked by superchick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell your boyfriend how lonely you are without him and you'd like to know where the relationship is going after two years. Tell him your goals in life: marriage and children. Ask him if he feels the same way. If he's still interested, he'll get involved in moving on with your relationship. If he's not, he'll just move on without you. You're going to have to be mature and ask or you might be wasting your time.
2006-09-08 02:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not ask him about marriage. I would get the job in Japan and when March 2007 rolls around, let your boyfriend know that there are a lot of prospective acquaintances in your immediate vicinity and they are proposing marriage, ask whether he sees you two in a similar situation or should you take the other acquaintances up on their offer. This way you will find out where his mind is without giving your own position away.
2006-09-08 10:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are just finishing your schooling, and your now just starting your careers, that may bring you guys to different situations. I don't think its a good idea to continue a long distance relationship...they usually never work, sorry to say. You should sit down and speak to him, and explain to him how you feel, and see what he thinks. Maybe the best option is to end things..but you never know where you both will end up in the future...whats meant to be will always be.
2006-09-08 10:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long distance relationship is difficult - especially as you apply your education to the outside world.
if it doesn't feel "just right" to ask him to marry you...
certainly bring it up...
let him know that you would be interested in marriage...
you never know...he might ask you right then and there.
What's important is that you talk about these plans and these concerns before you become settled.
I wish you much love and happiness.
2006-09-08 09:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasnt asked you to marry him, id say he is happy with the long distance. Hes 32, you should ask him what he thinks about marriage before you pop the question.
2006-09-08 09:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by blwatson41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance sucks. an old song "love the one you are with"
if you want to settle down, do it when he will be there with...other than that it's hard to try and express your love via cell phone and emails without physical love, depends on what you need most
go with what you need, not what you want, and for your own reasons
hey we love many people but if it won't match your needs, then maybe it wasn't meant to be
go with your gut, it helps to get other's opinion, but you know best and can't control what this guy does while traveling (I myself am the result of a wandering salesman) lol
2006-09-08 10:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check into a coffin hotel for 2 weeks, just the two of you.
If he can stand the confined space together, then he's
ready for the next step.
2006-09-08 10:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by Ron K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it and get everything out in the open for discussion. Remember that the outcome may not be what you want or expect but at least you will know and not spend the rest of your life wondering about this.
2006-09-08 10:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him. You just need to have a good long talk about your relationship and see where his heart is in it all. Maybe he feels the same way.
2006-09-08 09:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, ur going through to much and your saying you don't want him to...just tell hima nd tell it of ur chest, then focus on ur work coz u had education before metting him.
See it's best to leave him and forget him if he rejects u coz he was never meant for u and was a waste of time.
2006-09-08 10:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋