I don't kno wat to do? serious question.?

Question

Im 15 and desprete to have a baby. I really want one. I kno all the issues with having them cause i raised my little brother and sister. Im planing to drop out any way, baby or not. I want to get my g.e.d. and start working full time. I got about 6,300 dollars saved up to get me started. My family don't like it but im determined. im living with a friend right now cause my mom kicked me out.

just some info.

My dad died 3 years ago. I was gonna drop out cause my school lost my transcript and im not gonna repeat 12 classes. I lost my virginity when i was 13.

just some info.

My dad died 3 years ago. I was gonna drop out cause my school lost my transcript and im not gonna repeat 12 classes. I lost my virginity when i was 13.

Answer 1

YOUR TOOO YOUNG!!!!!! WAIT A COUPLE OF YEARS! SAVE YOURSELF!!!

Answer 2

I think your first step is to see a lawyer and become an emancipated minor. That way, you have the right to make decisions about your own life. At this stage, medical and legal decisions cannot be made by you. You cannot buy a car or rent a place to live because you are a minor.
Second, reconsider your decision to drop out of school. Stay in school, and work in the evenings, but not so much that you cannot manage your studies.
Third, reconsider your decision about having a child right now. Are you in a committed relationship that will continue throughout the pregnancy and raising the child? If not, please think about getting there first. Yes, many of us raised our children as single parents, but you can choose to do it or not, and I suggest you choose NOT to do that -- at least not right now. I was 26 when my daughter was born, and 27 when I became a single parent due to abuse. It was very hard for me, and I was already buying my own home and had a full-time job. If you do this now, you are looking at renting from someone else for a very long time and working at minimum wage jobs, which won't go very far to pay the bills and child care. You shouldn't plan to live off welfare -- that is not right when you have the choice to make right now. Do things that you want to do and get your home established, finish school, establish a career that you enjoy, then think about having a family. That will be so much easier than having a child just because you are "desperate to have a baby".
I wish you all the luck in the world. I am sorry that your family is not working out the way it should. You will succeed, but don't put roadblocks in your way right off. Get the education and wait to have a family.

Answer 3

What kind a life can you give your child at 15 considering you will be a highschool drop out? a GED isint anything and alot of jobs look down on them. You should finish school, get a diploma, go to college, have a good career, then meet a great guy and then have a baby. I think you are very foolish and your child will suffer because he will have an uneducated, living on welfare type of mother.

Also how does a school just loose your transcripts? I havent been to school in 15 years and I needed mine for some college courses and mine were able to be located, I think its a poor excuse.

Answer 4

Your 15 and your mom kicked you out. Your on yahoo Q&A when I know the entire country has gone back to school, why are you not? At 15 society is going to look at you like a child having a child! why would you care about that? because YOU are going to ruin any chance you have to have an easy future rather than a hard one. $6,300 is nothing, to start having children with. Poof, doctor bills it is GONE! then who is going to provide for you and your child? hmm? Your age will not let you drive to take it to the pediatrician, which is a must, your age will not let you have a full time job by law, your age will get yourself and the boys family into nothing but trouble/or a bunch of unnecessary DRAMA, your age will not be ready for the 24/7 responsiblilities that comes with Motherhood. Your age says you are not mature enough, and if you want something cute and cuddly to love that won't wake up crying at 2am that you may hurt because you don't know how to handle motherhood at 15, get a puppy!!!!! GROW THE HE** UP, MOVE BACK HOME, STAY IN SCHOOL, AND LEAVE US TAXPAYERS ALONE WHO WILL END UP SUPPORTING YOUR IMMATURE LITTLE SELF!!!!!

Answer 5

Honey, Honey, Honey. What are you doing? You are a baby yourself! It doesn't matter That you raised your brother and sister. There is a HUGE difference. How are you going to afford daycare for your baby. Without a diploma you won't get a good paying job to support you and your baby. You need to stay in school, graduate, go to a community college, and take it one step at a time. You are too young to waste your life like that. You don't know how hard it is to raise a child that is YOURS. Stay a child for as long as you can because once you are an adult, (which won't be too long) you can't get those years back. Your baby doesn't deserve to be raised under your conditions. I got married at 21 and we began having a family. I am now 34 and life is good. I could have never done this at 15. I was in 10th grade and having a ball. That's what you should be doing. Think about it!

Answer 6

Many teens have babies because they don't get the love they crave at home and they think a baby will provide them the unconditional family love they crave. However isn't that selfish? A mother thinks about what is best for her baby. If you have a baby right now, are you thinking about what is best for your baby? Love doesn't pay the bills. Love doesn't provide your child with good daycare and a future. Love doesn't find your baby a great father who will love her. I also wanted a baby when I was younger but I waited until I finished college and found someone that I wanted to marry and who would be a good father. It wasn't easy to wait all those years but now I am a better mother because of it and my children have a stable home and lots more future opportunities then they could ever dream of if I had a baby when I was a teen. So for me the number one thing that shows you are ready to be a mother is when you are willing to sacrifice everything for that child and put their needs first, which it doesn't sound like you are doing. Put yourself in your baby's shoes... look at your life from your baby's point of view... if you were going to pick any parents in the world, would you really pick yourself the way your life is right now?

Answer 7

The fact, you stated it yourself, you are living with a friend because your mom kicked you out. How in the world do you think that you are ready for a child? It is great you took care of your siblings, and it is your prerogative that you want to drop out of school and get your GED, but you aren't quite ready for a baby and believe me 6,300, which I commend you on saving, is not even nearly enough to begin with. Do you have medical insurance? What about working while you are pregnant, after you have the baby? Who is going to take care of you and the baby during that time? There are definately many more questions you need to be able to answer before you begin a family, If you want a good life for your child.

Answer 8

WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT DROP OUT!!! Getting your diploma is way better than getting your G.E.D. Not to put anyone down, get your education any way you can, but if you have the chance then take it. Don't throw it away. Do you know how many people were denied the chance to have an education? Women, African American Men & Women. How do you expect to give your child the best in the world if you are 15 and you have no job, staying w/ a friend, and only have $6300 saved? How long do you think that firend is going to let you stay? Think about more than just yourself!!!! You are being SO SELFISH!!!

Answer 9

Im sorry about your dad, and I'm sorry to say this but you are dumb.

6,3000 won't do crap and your dumb to think at 15 your going to support your baby. You know you can't work full time until your 18 and your friend ain't gonna support you.

G.E.D. doesn't cut it. I worked in a college admissions office, GED's are considered second rate at alot of places.

Your school lost your transcript, well tell them to find it. Or go back to your old school and ask them for it.

You need to get ahold of your life before you try to f*ck up the life of someone else.

Answer 10

I think you need 5 things before having a baby:

1. A good husband
2. A high School Diploma
3. A house to live in.
4. Medical Insurance that covers you, your husband and your baby.
5. About $20,000 saved up.

Answer 11

Speaking from experience, it really seems like you know enough about yourself and life at 15 to tackle the world. But in all honesty you dont.

Its a bad idea, Raising a baby while youre still a child is hard enough, raising one alone is incredibly grueling.

If you stopped to think about it, its a selfish choice. You want a baby, you want a little person of your own to love and to love you back. but you're only a child, and the life that you could provide that baby at this point in your life would be inadequet compared to waiting these next three years and finding a good man to settle down with.

I finished school when i was 15, and had to get my GED at 16 because the school system wouldnt let me graduate at such a young age. I did it because all I wanted was to settle down and start a family. All my life I was extremely mature for my age, I raised my brother while my mom laid dying on the sofa for a year. I cared for my ailing granparents and held their hands while they passed away. I'd been molested and abused by men. I'd moved 700 miles away from all my friends and family twice. I had been through more in 16 years than most people go through in a life time.

All that to say, i knew i was ready to grow up and be an adult, even though i was still a child. No one could convince me otherwise.

Now iam 23, pregnant, happily married, but if i could go back i would kick my asss and make myself stay in school and finish being a kid.

It takes 18 years to grow up for a reason, its not just some crazy number they pull from a hat. There are social skills, life education, experiences... all these things you need to be a fully functional adult, and you need those things while youre still a teenager.

Its impossible to convince a child theyre still a child when they think otherwise. Trust me, i was that kid. BUt if you have any wisdom at all you're realize that other people have been there and dont that, and want nothing more than to spare you the added work and hardship.

Its not an easy life at all. Its not a fairy tale. Its not waking up in a pretty place with a perfect child and feeling like a million bucks.

Its hormones and screaming babies, and not knowing what to do, and realizing that everything you touch costs you money and you're the only one who can pay for it, its work and work and more work for almost no money, barely trying to survive, and coming home to more work. Its runny noses and feeling sick and not being able to function. its your body falling apart on you before you're old enough to even take a drink.

It sounds nice when you reason like a child. But as a person who is now an adult having gone through it, and knowing others who have... its hell. Children are always worth the best we have to give them, and in some situations you have no choice.

But in this situation you have a choice, and you're making it uneducated, and selfishly for your own feelings and not for the best intrest of that baby.

Three years feels like forever now, but just wait until its three year and you're pregnant, or raising a baby with no money, and you're body starts falling apart AND the baby has colic and a runny nose. That three years is an eternity.

Please, for the sake of that baby, just wait.