What should she do? Leave him even though its gonna hurt her. She has bruises from when he threw her up against the wall. Should they seperate for a while. Im scared that she is gonna be hurt then do something like kill herself. What should we do with him and what can i do to help her besides being there and comforting her? She has been through this once but she didnt even get over that. How do i make her realize that there are better guys out there then in our town? Please Help this is Urgent!
2006-09-08 02:50:57 · 24 answers · asked by Ash Bee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, she must get out of that relationship, love or no love, you can love again but you can't live again, if that is what he is doing now, just think what will come later, ask her how she wants to spend the rest of her life, in a home for abused women, in and out of court, and the hospital, people like him are sick, actually have no balls, if they did they would never strike a woman, those kind of guys always say they are sorry and will never do it again, if you believe that, then be careful because you may buy the brooklyn bridge! Get out NOW!
2006-09-08 02:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a man I believe that this is unacceptable behavior on the B/F's part. She can seek assistance with a family male figure if she has one. Being in these situations is defined as destructive behavior. If she has a way to get out, by living with someone else she can be assured by you or someone else that she will be OK financially.
She may also have to expiriance the worst of it on her own so she will recognize this relationship as a deadly one. Jails and prison are full of these stories.
As a last resort she can contact the Police Department and have a Victim Advocate assist her in the right desicion to make.
John
Criminal Justice Student
2006-09-08 10:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by A+ Certified Professional 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to support her but belittling him will only make her turn away from you. She really needs a close, strong friend right now.
He has hurt her once and will again. Unfortunately some women seem to be magnets for men with that type of personality. I am.
One day she will decide enough is enough and be determined to never take it again. You can offer subtle hints and advice to ease her into this decision but if you try to push she will only pull away.
Men who act like that take control of the mind before they start hurting the body. Build her up and make her realize that she doesn't deserve this.
Get her to look into a mirror until she can really look into her own eyes. There is a difference in looking at your face and looking in your eyes. Then get her to talk about what she sees.
2006-09-08 09:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by joanne_happygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend has a problem with self esteem and probably feels that she deserves guys like this. She needs to leave and seek professional help or this pattern will continue. All you can do as a friend is comfort her and tell her straight how you feel.
If the boyfriend threatens you call the police immediately.
Good luck.
2006-09-08 09:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell her. Does she want to suffer in the hands of an abusive boyfriend? Tell her, even if you get to the marriage stage, does she want her child to see her abused and get her child abused as well. They are just in the start and already screwed up big time. If this continues, will they ever live normally or will they live in a life full with misery, sufferings and abuse?
Make her realise. The thruth might hurts but consequences are majority of this situation.
Report this to some Women's Right council or something.
2006-09-08 09:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by MissIndependanceday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she shouldn't be in an abusive relationship; that can only lead to more of a mental burden and could help develop self-esteem issues.
Second, if you think she would hurt herself or worse, then she should seek professional counseling or should at least speak to someone who has been in this situation before.
2006-09-08 09:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to leave him, have him arrested, believe me this will only get worse and he could end up killing her. Leave now, there is no other option, they all say they are sorry and won't do it again, but they will. Her self esteem will be at an all time low, she needs a confidence boost and the support of her friends.
2006-09-08 09:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start helping her by convincing her that she has issues and needs the help of professionals to find out why she is attracted to and keeps choosing men who abuse her and how to stop. She shouldn't separate "for a while" she should cut ties completely and forever. If she's suicidal for ANY reason that only validates her need for professional help.
Check with your county's health services. Often they have help which is free and always confidential.
2006-09-08 09:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your friend check with the local Sheriffs Department, in Michigan we have whats called a Personal Protection Order. This will protect her through the law. Next, she should break up with him. Next, you and your need girlfriend to go down and sign up for a Women's Self Defense course. Learn how to defend yourselves. Good luck.
2006-09-08 10:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by Stacey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to GET OUT! That is only a starting point of an extremely abusive relationship. Let her know that you will be there for her no matter what. She needs to know that she has support from her friends.
2006-09-08 09:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋