my boyfriend went to the doctor with me, and after explaining my diagnosis to him, re: a female issue; he said some things to me that just hurt my feelings. THe thing is at first he seemed unsure if i had a STD or what, but when he found out it wasn't he seemed relieved and began acting insensitive. I accused him of being guilty of having sex with someone without protection and that's why he was acting like that...he told me i was just being sensitive, he was just playing. when the evening ended he ended up being mad at me, the nerve.(I'm the one who should have been mad). By the way he is 34. Is he guilty of something? or was I just being sensitive, since it was of a personal nature.
2006-09-08 02:27:17 · 14 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you both need to grow up.
2006-09-08 02:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he may have been feeling a bit apprehensive about something he thought he'd done in the dark that may have come to light. If he was worried about an STD, and then all of a sudden wasn't when your diagnosis came back, there's something he isn't willing to tell since he technically didn't get caught. In knowing that you're going through something that is uncomfortable and foreign to you, he should have sense enough to try to be there for you......acting like a jerk when you're facing something that sent you to the doctor is a bad move......how would he feel if the tables were turned? I'm not telling you to end your relationship over this situation, but you do need to ask some questions and make sure you're comfortable and satisfied with the answers.
2006-09-08 02:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The majority of the reason people fight is communication. Try working on forgiving both of you for not (more than likely) even talking the same language about the same thing. Do you know how many men would even go to the doctor with a women?
2006-09-08 02:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by earthmothermoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he is being both. Depending on how long you have been with him and if you know you have only been with him in however long then why would he even think you have an STD unless he was with someone else. So that thought should not of crossed his mind. Good luck
2006-09-08 02:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by kyndrasmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably a little of both. But that depends on his usual attitude. Does he say these types of things about others usually? etc. If he's usually this caustic, then probably both. If not, then he is definately being insensitive....what does being 34 have to do with it?
2006-09-08 02:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is both insensitive and immature. If he can't be there for you in a time of crisis-do you really want to be with him? Oh, and I would suggest, in the future, girlfriends make much better choices for someone to accompany you to the gyno
2006-09-08 02:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u both need to grow up; cos u are thinking like him too; so just learn to trust and tell him u expect more from him at hios age at least to show care no mater the diagnosis
2006-09-08 02:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by segsky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell since you didn't specify what he said and I don't
know either of you. I do get the impression that you're a little
anal retentive and he just lost patience with you.
2006-09-08 02:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immature defo
2006-09-08 02:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by Cherrelle18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you struck a nerve. Have you asked him why he would joke like that? That is like joking about getting a divorce you just do not do it.
2006-09-08 02:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by curiosity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋