Unhappily married with a crush on someone else, should I let the one I have a crush on know? If so, how?

Answer 1

If your unhappily married, then work on your marriage or get a divorce before you drag someone else into your unhappiness of your marriage.

If you plan to reveal your crush with the hope of something coming out of it, your married and shouldn't be revealing anything that can spell more troubles for you.

Time and time again people tend to involve third parties in their marital problems because they plan to stay in a unhappy marriage looking for someone outside of the marriage to pick up the slack and make them happy and that isn't right.

If you have a crush it should still be their after you have resolved your marital problems of being unhappily married.

Answer 2

Stop. Sit down and reflect for a moment. What was it that attracted your interest in the beginning with your wife? You married her because she has qualities you admire. The first year or two of marriage is bliss, fun and erotic. But that's not love -- true love.

Every marriage goes through cycles. After you get past the honeymoon phase, then TRUE love sets in. That's the make or break in marriage.

Before you make a mistake, look at your wife. See if there is something salvageable.

A crush is a crush. You chose the perfect word. This, too, will pass, and then you will be in the same boat again, and then you will have a crush on someone else.

You need to focus on true love and commitment. Love is a DECISION, and you don't run with your emotions. Emotions deceive us.

Answer 3

Why the hell would you want to do that? Isn't one screwed up relationship enough. Why bring someone else into it. Deal with your marriage first. That is where your focus should be. Of course its a lot easier to throw all that away and go with what feels good. Maybe your husband loves you more than he can say. That is maybe he doesn't know how to show his affection. Anger is the mask that covers a heart full of pain. I guarantee you won't mistake that when he finds out about New Guy. I'll bet New Guy will know with certainty out how much your husband loves you. How old are you? Do you want to perpetuated this throw away sociaty we have worked so hard to attain. Go talk to some divorced people. Let them tell you how much better it is. I didn't know how to tell my ex wife how much I loved her. That didn't mean that I didn't. Now twenty some years later She is in her third marriage and I have been alone. If I am ever lucky enough to have another chance at love you can bet I'll let that love know how much I have missed it. Well good luck. You are probably going to do the wrong thing any way. Why else would you seek an audience?

Answer 4

In my opinion you need to deal with your spouse first! If you are unhappily married then get out of the marriage. This "crush" may just be something that's happening because of your unhappiness. The grass is not always greener on the other side, remember that. Be fair to your spouse and wait till you are single to pursue this other person.

Answer 5

Yes you need to deal with your mate first before dipping into the honey jar, if you are not happy get an marriage counselor, if that doesn't work get an divorce, and then worry about getting an crush you have things to deal with so do it first you just didn't walk into this marriage, hoping it would work it self out did you? Do you still love this person do you want to save this marriage? those are the question you should be asking yourself not about telling someone you have an crush on them.

Answer 6

At least tell ur partner know that your unhappy because no one can read ur mind and know how u feel at the same time.

Try to be more open and honest about how u feel and don't care how ur wife/husband will react coz in a relationship it's about being equal and sharing ur thoughts and understanding on another.

Do not start a relationship with the person you have a crush with because it will make ur relationship with ur partner more tough to deal with and make things more unhappy for you coz thats the time u have to choose b/w ur wife/husband and the crush.

Talk to your wife/husband that there is not much going on in ur relationship and tell him or her how to improve it more.
I hope u understand that ...why u married your wife/ husband in the frist places and was it ur plan to leave them?
Okay...Talk and let it out then SMILE*

Answer 7

First you need to be an adult and end the marriage you are in now. Then you let the person you have a crush on know that you have feelings for them. If they don't feel the same way then at least your not in a marriage you are not happy with.

Answer 8

This advice is not going to be received well at all here but anyways... If your wife never wants to have sex its unreasonable to expect you to go without sex. As long as all else is good in your marriage and she is a great mother than there is no reason to destroy your marriage over this. My advice is to mess around but do it away from home and keep it casual. Don't tell your wife or let her find out. Try begging her to have sex with you - if she still says no then things will probably never change

Answer 9

You know what, play games with your spouse. Renew your relationship. Take the reasons that you have a crush on that other person and incorporate them into your relationship. Role Play: wigs, outfits, etc...

Hope that helps. And remember the grass always looks greener on the other side, be happy with what you have.

Answer 10

well have you tryed to fix your marrage maybe youneed to think before you say any thing what if the other person tells you no way .you need to get a divorce first if not you will have more trouble in your life try to fix the one you have first . soooooo noooooo /do not say anythink to the one you have a crush on .good luck ; )